Am I abnormal?

We're starting to really get down to working on the guest list because we want to send out STD's soon, and I'm quickly realizing two things:

1. FH and I have the smallest list out of everyone - my mom has almost double what we have, his parents too, and my dad has the same amount as us

2. We may be coming in UNDER our 170 person minimum - I always hear about inviting too many people...my list is only people FH and I talk to and see regularly, and my mom keeps saying 'don't you want to invite more of your friends?' but honestly FH and I are like we don't want to invite just for the sake of it we want our friends who we are close with not someone I haven't spoken to in 2 years....

Am I totally weird with this???

I don't think you are weird. His parents friends make up about 1/2 of the TOTAL guest list.

I think that regardless of if you end up deciding to add those people you aren't sure about inviting now, don't send them save the dates! Your guest list could change a lot---we actually decided against STDs even though we have a lot of OOTers because we were worried that the list might change!

we are definitely subscribers to the idea that having people that are important to us in the present will shape our entire guest list.

i don't care if FH wants to invite people he hasn't seen in awhile. but has he talked to them? or does he just consider them 'important'. then fine.

none of my family lives here so i NEVER see them. but i talk to them all the time obviously so... they'll be there. and any family friends or just friends that are 'near and dear' even if i haven't seen them in awhile... then sure.

but i won't be inviting people just for the sake of invites.

nor will be be allowing our parents to invite people just for the sake of invites.

if our parents start wanting to invite people we hardly no, they will get turned down.