My FH is a U.S. Marine getting ready to be deployed to Iraq.............I am doing the best that I can to stay in touch with his whole family and pass along the news that he gives to me. I called his mom for three days in a row and she never called me back. THen when she FINALLY did I was at school. I have been checking his voice mails and updating him since he doesnt have any time to do that. Well his mom left him a message and said 'some girl left me a message that you are being deployed I think it was Tracy but I'm not sure' blah blah blah, ' I don't want to talk to your dad or Tracy, I want to hear from you. Please call me'
I am pissed. How dare she right? after five years she says 'some girl' 'maybe Tracy' isn't that rude??????am I overreacting. First of all I feel the first time I called her she should have called me back right away, her son is going to IRAQ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! then its 'some girl' who else would it be????????
I am so sensitive right now I know this. but I am so sad that she would say that. What do you all think?
JimmysBride
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Ew. How nasty!
I don't blame you one bit. I understand that she wants to talk to her own son and probably hear the news from her own son but she knew that msg would get back to you somehow so that's really rude.
Stop leaving her messages regarding her son and giving her updates and next time she calls and leaves a msg for him make sure to tell your FH/DH that 'some woman' called.
LOL, some woman, thats great, I didn't think of that!!!!!!!!!!
TY you made me laugh
suven
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You're not being too sensitive. That was pretty rude. You could always call her back and let her know that you got the message and that you are 'Tracy' and you will be sure to let him know that she called.
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Not at all! I would be pissed if I were you. I would think that his mom would want to be close with you at this difficult time so you two could be there for one another. I would steer clear of her as much as possible and I would not bring this up with her. If your FH does that's one thing, but I think you should just keep it to yourself.
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I would be so fuming mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She should be appreciative that you are trying to keep her updated!!! That was really not nice of her!!!!!!
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It would definitely annoy me, because after 5 years that's just a stupid thing to say, and she should at least give you the courtesy of a return call.
But at the same time, I do understand where she's coming from when it comes to her hearing from her son directly. He should be calling his mother to let her know himself. If I were in his shoes and I had my FH call my dad to tell him something like that he'd be pissed at me for not telling him myself. JMHO.
Well he can't call himself, he only has time for one call a day and I'm sorry,I am his future and our situation maybe different because in our relationshipI am mommy and wifey to be I have always taken care of him from day one. So he calls me by his choice because he knows that I am the one that will always be there for him.
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I think she needs to treat you with more respect! Maybe she's in denial that you are his FUTURE WIFE.....maybe you need to stamp it on your forehead or something.
june262004
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Some Woman.... Is she KIDDING!!!!! I would be so MAD
9.17.04bride
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RUDE! That is all I have to say. I don't know where some of these mothers come from.
june262004
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And Ure FH is in my thoughts. THANK him for what he is doing for us!
Jen_n_Dale
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First of all a huge thanks to your fh for keeping our country safe and a big hug to you!
And I would be mad too.
MrHostility
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She isn't right, but perhaps she is freaking out because her son is going to Iraq. I don't know how she acts otherwise, but I'd say something like this is dismisable, considering the circumstances.
Thank you all for keeping us in your good thoughts.
To Mr. Hostility and others just want ot let you know this is pretty normal behavior for her and not really dissmissable at all because she is generally just rude. LOL, sorry I don't want the anger directed to you but had to tell you
