am i being out of line?

ok.... fh's bachelor party is this weekend. it's a surprise. the guys are coming to pick him up at 5:30am, they are going to go fishing and then head to AC for the night.

originally i planned with BM to let them into our apartment but now he's asking if i can get keys to one of the GM so they can just come in.

i love and trust these guys, but really, i don't want them storming the place at 530 in the morning... mainly b/c i don't know what state fh and i are going to be in. i mean, what if we had a lil' something something going on the night before. i'd DIE if they showed up and we were, um, as god intended us. know what i mean?

plus, i'd really like to be awake and coherent to see fh's reacation to it all. i mean, i helped with the surprise part so i really really want to enjoy that aspect of it.

but if i say no, i feel like they're going to think i'm being a *****.

oh, the other tricky parts to this is that i'm really obsessive with making sure the chain is on the door at night. if fh sees it off he'll put it on. if i tell him not to, he'll be suspicious.

what do you girls think?

Since you are helping plan it and they need to enter YOUR home, you are totally in the right. I wouldn't want to give out the key to my home either.


eta---and i see your point totally on the 'naked' thing...you never know what's going to happen the ngiht before and if you flat out refused to fall asleep that way and you usually do, your FH might wonder what's up....why the prudeness. just throwing that out there....some guys get weirded if you won't do something you normally do.

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Posted by MuchInLuvMichi

since You kno about the suprise u can make sure ur decent 'clothes wise' as for the chain, id make sure u go to bed last and just leave it unlocked, im sure it will really add to the eliminate of suprise if they barge in, but u need to do what u feel comfy with, maybe u can make sure ur awake 5 minutes prior somehow...w/o waking up ur fh

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perfectly stated...making the conscious decision not to be caught w/your birthday suits on....

i dont think id wanna give a key out but you already know they are coming at 5am so you are well aware to be decent when they come by!
oh and as for the chain....leaving it off & by chance your fi sees that...it may look odd! So id def tell them, that they need another idea on how to come over

i wont trust my keys with the BM either, what you could do is make sure u're awake at 5:30am (that will be hard) then let them in. Have him call ur cellphone, which you can leave under ur pillow on vibrate, when he's outside the door...

Also make sure your FH goes to sleep b4 u so he wont notice the chain on the door...

:)

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Posted by eden

i wont trust my keys with the BM either, what you could do is make sure u're awake at 5:30am (that will be hard) then let them in. Have him call ur cellphone, which you can leave under ur pillow on vibrate, when he's outside the door...

Also make sure your FH goes to sleep b4 u so he wont notice the chain on the door...

:)

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see, THAT was the original plan and i was quite happy with that. fh sleeps through anything so he totally wouldn't wake up. i don't know why but i just get anxiety with the thought of them just coming in. i don't know - i feel like we are adults, not college kids so there's no reason.

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Posted by metmymatch

ok.... fh's bachelor party is this weekend. it's a surprise. the guys are coming to pick him up at 5:30am, they are going to go fishing and then head to AC for the night.

originally i planned with BM to let them into our apartment but now he's asking if i can get keys to one of the GM so they can just come in.

i love and trust these guys, but really, i don't want them storming the place at 530 in the morning... mainly b/c i don't know what state fh and i are going to be in. i mean, what if we had a lil' something something going on the night before. i'd DIE if they showed up and we were, um, as god intended us. know what i mean?

plus, i'd really like to be awake and coherent to see fh's reacation to it all. i mean, i helped with the surprise part so i really really want to enjoy that aspect of it.

but if i say no, i feel like they're going to think i'm being a *****.

oh, the other tricky parts to this is that i'm really obsessive with making sure the chain is on the door at night. if fh sees it off he'll put it on. if i tell him not to, he'll be suspicious.

what do you girls think?

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then why dont u just say no keys cuz of the chain excuse!!!? u think that will work?

I'm very close to FH's BM, so I'd give him the key, but I'd probably set my alarm to go off at 5:15 so I can be up and ready to catch all of it.

I understand your concern, and I'd probably take the key back immediately, but think of how much fun the boys will have with this. Let's just hope your FH doesn't attack them thinking they're robbers!

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

then why dont u just say no keys cuz of the chain excuse!!!? u think that will work?

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i'd like to think so. you knwo, the more i'm thinking about this the more aggrevated i'm getting. mainly b/c i know the wives of the guys and i can't imagine they would be happy with this request. not to mention that when the bm got married he planned his own bachelor party and didn't want fh to do any of the planning.

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Posted by metmymatch

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

then why dont u just say no keys cuz of the chain excuse!!!? u think that will work?

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i'd like to think so. you knwo, the more i'm thinking about this the more aggrevated i'm getting. mainly b/c i know the wives of the guys and i can't imagine they would be happy with this request. not to mention that when the bm got married he planned his own bachelor party and didn't want fh to do any of the planning.

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Just stay calm and tell them the key idea is no good cuz ur FH is the one who is anal about the chain being on the door and he even checks it in the middle of the night if he gets up to go pee.
So you dont want to take that chance. If they keep insisting just kindly say NO and stick to the original plan.
Good luck sweety!

ok, the chain excuse it is! and if that doesn't work i'm just going to tell them that we might be naked and, unlike fh and their wives, i was not part of greek life and would not be ok with them busting in on me sleeping in the buff!

ooo, now that i say that.... i should just tell them i sleep naked and that if i know they have a key i'll want to sleep with pj's on and that will make fh suspicious

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Posted by metmymatch

ooo, now that i say that.... i should just tell them i sleep naked and that if i know they have a key i'll want to sleep with pj's on and that will make fh suspicious

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Good idea with the PJS. I was going to say if you tell them you sleep naked they might be more intent on barging in early!