Am I Wrong for Asking This? sigh kind of long.....

deed766 Posted: May 15, 2008 06:32 PM

Am I Wrong for Asking This? sigh kind of long.....

Some of you may remember that my MOH was trying to throw me bridal shower in a nail salon and only invite about 10 to 12 people. Well I spoke to her about it and told her to use the very nice and elegant social room in my apt. complex. It is a very nice room, something similar to a huge sunroom with a huge kitchen, a movie room, and a huge social room with couches and comfortable chairs with matching tables. Plus its FREE! Just need to get some catering, which should be cheap because there are a couple of nice restaurants close by.

Well, i guess that didn't sit well with her because she came back to me a couple of days ago snd said that she knows someone in a restaurant that can help her rent it out for the bridal shower. Well today she calls me and tells me that she would like to book it for 4:30 to 6:30pm and only 20 people can come. So I went ahead and checked my list of close women friends and family members and they are 30 people. So i told her that i don't think it is right invite to only invite 20 people and not invite the other 10. And we can not go over our time slot. So it wil have to be only two hours. So she said that this fits her budget. But she doesn't have to pay an arm and leg for this either. If she use the cheapest option, which is using the social room.

I am really glad that I told her to keep me informed of the shower because she would had a lot of people upset with me about the timing and not inviting certain important people.

I am really trying to find every other way to say it, but i want a lot of gifts. To me that is the whole point of a shower and mingle with my girls and family members. I just don't understand why she doesn't see that after so many times explaining it to her. I should be grateful that she is throwing me anything but i really don't see the point of her eliminating my guests like that. What do you think?

Jonas9281 Posted: May 15, 2008 06:47 PM

Re: Am I Wrong for Asking This? sigh kind of long.....

I don't think you're wrong...I would be very honest and tell her that you appreciate what she's doing, but you'd prefer to have it in the social room, so that more of your friends/family could come...and the more the merrier, bc you need stuff! Those gifts are what get you started in life bc there's no way to afford them all by ourselves! It's your day, so i would not really just ask, but say that those people HAVE to be invited. And two hours is not enough time!

deed766 Posted: May 15, 2008 06:53 PM

Re: Am I Wrong for Asking This? sigh kind of long.....

Thanks Jonas9281! At first, I thought i was having one of those bridezilla moments. I told her the first time that I would like to invite all of women that i am close to. However, i guess its not sinking in far enough for her. I am really trying hard not to let this get to me but i already had so many complaints from family and friends about not inviting other people to the wedding. Now, imagine that we cut people off for a shower. That probably really curse me out then.

kslmbuggie Posted: May 15, 2008 07:35 PM

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is there anyone else that can help her out financially? the social room sounds like a good idea, but sometimes rooms can get pricey as well because you have to account for catering and decor as well.

deed766 Posted: May 15, 2008 08:02 PM

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I told her that I will help her financially but it sounds like she doesn't want me to help. I had priced out the food already for catering and it is relatively cheap and there isn't much to decorate, besides balloons and small banners (if she chooses). I had counted that she will pay much less for the social room. I had left her a message just now telling her that i need to speak to her to go over why she prefers one thing over the other.

MrsJ08 Posted: May 15, 2008 08:41 PM

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That is why i am planning my own shower. I did not want it to be a surprise becuase i wanted to handle it. If I were you I would just just take over it lol.