Me and my fh have been living together for 3 months. I am a crazy neat freak and everything needs to be clean smelling and looking nice. Well since we moved in my fh has all of a sudden became a pig! Leaving dishes on the coffee table, clothes next to the basket instead of in the basket, dirty clothes on the floor in the bathroom, leaving food out. I feel like he is taking advantage. now i dont want to make my fh sound like a jacka$$ or a scum bag but why all of a sudden has he gotten like this? as of today for one week im going to TRY not to clean up after him but its going to be so hard. is that wrong? maybe he will be bothered by living in a mess and will change his act?? haha i know im kidding myself. it pi$$es me off! i jut cleaned last night and i feel like i walked into a pig pen after work today and i did leave it they way it was, A MESS! and he has the nerver to ask me why does this house look like this and i yelled at him and said why dont u tell me!!! im so pi$$ed!! anything i can do to make him help me with the cleaning? thanks girls
sunshine1813
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I would definitly stop cleaning up after him and see what happens. Or better yet, leave the dirty dishes where he sits and see how he responds. My FH did that to his cousin, he took his dirty dishes and put them in the bath tub. It was extremely funny and it got the point across.
snydl40
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Tara-I am sorry James is being a butt. Joe is pretty neat, but he owns too much stuff and since we don't have a house or apartment yet-he has no where to put it. I am constantly tripping, stubbing my toes, and just swerving around his possesssions-it drives me nuts!
I would let James clean up the mess-try not to clean a thing-hopefully he will realize the error of his ways.
luvabul
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dont live with FH yet, but when i sure do i hope all these recommendations work...hopefully im not marrying a pig... lol .... he seems clean ..u never know until u live with them i guess
gonzo23456
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LOL! I wouldn't be surprised if he was that much of a 'pig' before hand. We all have our own idiosyncrasies. Most of us don't realize that when we move in together we are taking each others bad habits with us. I would simply tell your FH how you are feeling. Do not CLEAN UP after him (don't be his mother) because then he will never be able to see the mess he his making b/c he has you there to clean it up. I know it might kill you having to give up that control. I'm a neat freak too and can relate. These are all the over hill battles that we all have to learn to adjust to. It is all part of living together. Good Luck! Us neat freaks have to support each other I love JIFFY sugestion.
P.S. If my FH is reading this: I promise to close the toothpaste cap and not to leave a wet towl on the bed at night anymore. LOL!
