So Fh and I were just talking about the date, April 1st and he said that his mother said she will not come to the wedding if it is on that day!!!! So what the F***!!!!! I should tell her then she should pay for the difference that would have saved us money, never mind the fact that it would have been a great date!!! She's not even paying a dime for anything!!!!! I'd be more understanding if she was doing something but, she isnt doing a damn thing. Funny thing is she says I remind her of her mother, so why not do it then??? EERRRR
teddybear8301
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ohhh!!!!!!!!!!!! I would definately tell her to pay for it herslef if she did not like the day!
Sorry u have to deal with that!
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Oh my godddddd.... You poor girl... That is sooo immature for her to be pulling that crap on you!!! Wowwwww... Theer are nicer ways to go about it... very classy FMIL!!!
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is your mother in law paying for it? why would she say such a thing? thats just weird.
dazies1011
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YUP YUP, see what I mean..... Her anniversary is on the day of my dad's death anniversary so I told FH that I will never celebrate it with them ever again!!!! She is very nice to but, she is jealous of alot of things. Her engagment ring was stolen and when we were looking for diamonds she didn't want us to talking in front of her cause she got upset. So many of friends that i have talked to about this says she is very immature!!! EEERRRR. She shoud look at it like she will have all the people that she loves and loves her back, plus then some, to be with her on that day.
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Posted by dazies1011
So Fh and I were just talking about the date, April 1st and he said that his mother said she will not come to the wedding if it is on that day!!!! So what the F***!!!!! I should tell her then she should pay for the difference that would have saved us money, never mind the fact that it would have been a great date!!! She's not even paying a dime for anything!!!!! I'd be more understanding if she was doing something but, she isnt doing a damn thing. Funny thing is she says I remind her of her mother, so why not do it then??? EERRRR
I know that feeling somewhat, It stinks that everyone has to put their 2 cents in.
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Why the hell won't she come to your wedding if its on april 1st?????? My friend got married on april 1st and it was a wonderful day!!!! i say tell her when she wants to pay for all of it you will be HAPPY to have it on a different day... UGH some people should just smile and not say anything!!! ( sorry i know thats your FMIL)
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Posted by Irishny8
Why the hell won't she come to your wedding if its on april 1st?????? My friend got married on april 1st and it was a wonderful day!!!! i say tell her when she wants to pay for all of it you will be HAPPY to have it on a different day... UGH some people should just smile and not say anything!!! ( sorry i know thats your FMIL)
It is quite alright. She is a nice woman but, acts very childish....
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I just read your first post about the date, i STILL don't see why you can't have that date! You gotta do what works for you .... (remind me i said that when these issues start popping up when i FINALLY pick a date )
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Maybe if you sat down with her and talked things through. Say you would be saving money and you want to honor her and all that.
I understand how frustrating this is...try hard not to argue with one another (you and FH). My FMIL is the same... she has an opinion about EVERYTHING yet she isn't doing sh**!! She told us she was going to help pay for our e-party which is the 26th and just bailed on us because she needs a kitchen floor...FYI the floor is fine, only 5 years old.
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This is just so crazy!!!! Even my mom says and she really doesn't but in at all!!!!!! EEERRRR
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if shesn ot paying for anything, then you say to her 'well...we will miss you, but this is the date we decided.'
i know FH is probably upset, and rightfully so, but if he really likes that date too, i dont understand what her problem is. UGH@!
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i woul dbe like iif you dont like the day then for for the day you want, and if she says no then oh well just live with what you have and she shouldnt say anything
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Now he is sticking by his mom's side and saying he doesnt want to do it!!!!! So I told him if he doesn't go with me and do ALL the wedding stuff with me I'll book whatever palce I want and whatever date I WANT!!!!!
oh man I feel ya ...when me and FH finally decided on a date FMIL had a problem with it and we told her that the people that dont want t o come because we decided to have it on that date dont mean much to us anyway and we wont want them there anyway ... who ever really wants to see us get married will be there regardless of the date... FMIL's can be so demanding and overstep there boundries !!! I would ask her if she is willing to pay the difference $ wise if you change the date for HER! Also FH should open his mouth too because when I feel like FMIL just wont stop about something I tell FH and he puts a stop to her .... I just feel bad because me and FMIL were closer before we started planning the wedding... was it like that with you guys too?
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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My FMIL lives in FL so I'm lucky if I'll even see the woman.... Also, I get along better with her than FH does... He gets soo aggravated with her and I'm the one always tryin to smooth things over with them 2.... So strange!
I feel so bad for you girls with the bad in-law situations!!!
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what a cranky ***** =(
Jayla127
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What is the problem that she has with that date? It never fails with some FMIL's. I would pay her no mind. Like you said, 'she's not paying for anything. So be it
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OMG! I find that the ones that aren't helping with the funds are the ones who have the most to say!!! Believe me girl I'm seeing it first hand! The girls at work warned me about the 'in laws', but until now I didn't believe them! It is so hard to just bite your tongue and look the other way.
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Thats terrible... but, if you listen to everyone elses opinion you will drive yourself crazy. That is a hard one though because FH is choosing her side
