Annoyed

So my mom has been pestering me for a list of ladies to invite to the bridal shower. She said that most places need 35-40 to guarantee, so make sure to give her enough names. I give her 43 names plus me makes 44. So today she tells me she has to look it over with me because she doesn't know half the people on the list and she needs to know who she can eliminate. ELIMINATE? Mom, why would you need to eliminate anyone. She tells me she doesn't know how many people she will invite, so if she needs to she will just eliminate my 'friends' from the list.

It's my shower and I can't have my friends there. Is it just me? Very irritated right now.

Just hang in there... She is just being a parent... UGH... somtimes they are silly!!!

Sorry to hear about this C-Love...I'm going through the sam situation with the wedding guestlist....It stinks b/c you want to make her happy, but you want to be surrounded by people you know as well.

Give her the guestlist, see who she cuts off, and then add them on again!

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

Sorry to hear about this C-Love...I'm going through the sam situation with the wedding guestlist....It stinks b/c you want to make her happy, but you want to be surrounded by people you know as well.

Give her the guestlist, see who she cuts off, and then add them on again!

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Thanks babe!
Well I spoke to my sister last night and told her the situation. My mom basically said I should be hands off and not get involved so I need my sister's help now. I told her that if they needed to cut people to call FH since he would then cut some of his friends from the list. However, I told my sister that some of the people being invited are out of respect becuase they are out of town and probably won't come in for a shower. So I don't think they'll even have 40 peeps. I guess the drama is starting for me.

That sounds like something my mom would do. I feel for ya

I would talk to her if I were you. Tell her that you understand that there is a budget that needs to be worked within, but you would really want your friends at YOUR shower. Maybe she would be more leniant if she knew how importnat it is to you.

Remember, weddings make parents all crazy. I remember when my parents and the FILs used to be sane - well almost.

Thanks ladies!

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Posted by VeeandRich

my mom is not even asking me! she feels like the bride should know nothing about the shower. I have a feeling she may be trying to figure things out w/ my FH, so I don't know how this is going to turn out. i'm afraid he'll forget someone

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Just send her a list anyway, and this way she'll have something to go with. If she chooses to use it.