okay -- here's the story ---- When we originally booked the hall, we all came to an agreement that my parents would pay for the wedding itself, and between his parents and us -- we would split the costs of everything else (flowers, limos, photog., etc). WELL -- FH calls me one day saying how his mom knows this florist and wants to set up an apt. where we can all go and meet with them and see what they have to offer. SO I said, 'ok let me check what time my mom is available' because I really didnt think there was an issue with her coming along -- I want my mom's opinions and she wants to help with the planning. So FH calls me back saying his mother does not want my family present for any of the vendors that they paying for with us because she feels that their expenses are none of my parent's business. SO THATS WHEN I FLIPPED OUT!!!!
SO NOW -- my parents are pissed at them too....and basically told his family that my parents are now going to pay for my family's guests and everything else (flowers, photos, limos) and his parents are responsible for paying for their family's guests.
So -- i know i have to put her name on the invites since she is paying for her guests....but do I have to include her in planning other things?
It is such a rotten situation -- this is a time families are suppose to come together!
SOrry so long
jgl
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his Mom was being a real B iotch! But IMO FH shouldnt have relayed that to you and should have told his mom that that was wrong and should have just canceled the appt until he sorted out with them! Now your 2 families are up in arms.... That is BS, just because someone is paying doesnt mean other people cant have an opinion.
I feel for you!
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Thanks-- He told me that he asked his mom on three different occasions and told her that having my mom there is important to me.....The Biotch just didnt care enough to affect her....so now she can pay for all her guests, and if she can't afford them then it will just be her at the wedding from his family -- thats how I feel right now, I soooo had it with her.
jgl
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i edited my post.. cuase i didnt mean to make it sound like your FH was at fault sorry!!
Why do people have to be so sensitive. What is the big deal about coming to look at flowers.. OMG..
GL
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That's just plain rude. My parents are paying for the RH and some other things when looking at RH's I told my parents that I also wanted FH's parents to come and look at our last few choices before we made our final decision. I think it's nice to have both sets of parents included. That's very parentzilla of them...I would just tell them to keep their money.
dream426
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OMG! That is so rude. I think I would flip out on her. I would seriously tell FH he needs to talk to her. How dare they.
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it sounds like they have some insecurities..... it shouldnt be a competition, i am sorry you are dealing with this. it is your wedding and if you want your parents included then they should be. that just does not seem right to me. i hope things work out for you!
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Sorry your going through this,
SugaBeans
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WOW i feel bad for you! This is CRAZY! Dont you hate being put in the middle? Your parents were paying for the wedding so does that mean the FI's shouldnt go to the wedding?
So much drama that you dont need!
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thats messed up. My mom is paying for everything and his mother is invited to everything we do. Both sides know pricing. His mother puts her input to help my mom out. A lot of the time they agree with each other and I am the odd man out.
Sorry you have to go through that!!!
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I'm sorry...butyour mother has every right ot be a part of your wedding planning! SHE'S YOUR MOTHER!!! Also, your parents are paying for 75% of the wedding so she has no right to tell you the she doesn't want your family involved. That is bull!! I am so sorry the you have to deal with this!!
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WHO THE HELL DOES SHE THINK SHE IS TELLING YOUR MOM THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I would have lost it like you did... She really knows how to screw crap up huh!
I am so sorry youhave to deal with her drama.
Im Mad too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol
mnucci
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Thanks ladies -- for all of your support and for letting me vent. I just hope things work out. I guess I just have to try to learn not to let her affect me. I hope it gets better!
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it's so sad that people forget that this is supposed to be about two people who love each other, not about money. i'm so sorry you're going through this. his parents need to get over themselves, and i feel so bad that they are making you feel this way.
try not to worry about it too much, and i hope it works out for you!!
Kimbalina
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OK so why couldnt your mom go and give YOU her opinion and not be in the room for the pricing!
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That is horrible!!!! I just don't get how some people can try to ruin a special time in someones life! I hope everything works out.
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sorry, that is rough and you are not wrong for wanting your mother's opinion and to come along
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Posted by jeanette0402
it's so sad that people forget that this is supposed to be about two people who love each other, not about money. i'm so sorry you're going through this. his parents need to get over themselves, and i feel so bad that they are making you feel this way.
try not to worry about it too much, and i hope it works out for you!!
