annoyed at the church

I needed to vent with people who might understand...lol

FH and I have been trying to make an appointment and they keep telling us they will get back to us and we hear nothing!!

we are borderline stalking the rectory now!

I am so frustrated how difficult this is becoming!
I have made all my sacrements there and love the church....

AHHHH!!!

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Posted by Espo22

Have you gone in person? if not then that might be the best thing to do.

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I second that. Just stop by and try to make the appointment that way.

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Posted by Espo22

Have you gone in person? if not then that might be the best thing to do.

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i agree!!

wow, i had no idea how hard it was. we are having our ceremony at the RH so i don't have to deal with this, but i can't believe it would be so frustrating!!

i hope you get in touch with them soon!

I was in your shoes. Have you booked them yet or are you trying to do that now?

I would go down there in person if they're not getting back to you.

It almost came down to that for me. After about 5 calls with no return calls from the priest I finally laid into them a bit about how they make such a big deal about booking the church first before anything else but they're making that extremely difficult because no one calls me back... 30 mins later I got a call from the deacon setting up an appt. with us to meet with them.

Just because it's church don't be afraid to get a little stern to get what you want.

Good luck!!!

i would be really frustrated too! we had some problems with the church in the beginning when it came to picking our date, and i was really upset by it. b/c it's not like you really want to give them a hard time...they are the CHURCH! i wouldnt feel bad about calling them though, you are just trying to keep on top of things. that reminds me though.....i keep putting it off, they called me about precana a while ago and i have yet to call them back (b/c we are not doing it till spring). i wish i was as persistent as you!

we stopped by twice and the father wasnt available to speak.

when we finally got him he told us he was retiring this september and that we should try another priest...

we made a tentative appointment with the father who will hopefully be doing the wedding and have been trying to call and make a time. he wanted a strict time and between fh and I work schedules we would never make it, he asked if we could take off early!!! ever since we told him it might be an issue we have not been able to get in touch with him!

We will try and stop by..AGAIN...lol.

they are going to start kicking us out...lol

I just think it is crazy how they make such a big deal out of booking there before a RH and make it impossible.

we are considering trying a different church just bc we dont want to have it be this difficult to get everything done for the wedding.

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Posted by ItalianBride428

We will try and stop by..AGAIN...lol.

they are going to start kicking us out...lol

I just think it is crazy how they make such a big deal out of booking there before a RH and make it impossible.

we are considering trying a different church just bc we dont want to have it be this difficult to get everything done for the wedding.

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i know exactly how you feel! the booking thing gets really difficult. FH and i had to change our date like 3 times b./c of scheduling problems. also...if you are having a daytime wedding, find out from them what time you can start the ceremony b.c some churches wont start until later b/c the mornings are reserved for funerals. (that was the prob that we had since we are a daytime wedding). AND (i have to look at your date again) but another bad time is during communions for the kids. My church wouldnt schedule anything during a few week time span b/c they 'weren't sure yet when communions would be' for 2008. and it is possible it would have been one of those weekends.

oops it responded twice...

anyway, i just realized your date is Sept. so you should be okay in that respect.

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Posted by Espo22

it's weird bc Joe and I didn't even have to meet with the priest to book the church. He went in and asked them what he has to do, they gave him an application with the date, time and all of that info. He brought it back home and I filled it out, and then he went by himself to drop it off. They called me two weeks later just to confirm with me. I asked what do we do next and he was like don't worry for now you have nothing to do, just 6 months before bring baptism certificate and to do pre-cana

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you are lucky! some churches seem pretty strict about it.

denise...what church is that??


lolo, j/k...

I am glad it was that easy! my church is notorious for pulling stuff like this so I actually am not super suprised.

i had a hard time getting in touch with churches too!! we almost had to stalk a few priests as well haha

i went to drop off FH's baptisim certificate this past weekend & they told me that i cant drop it off until its within 6 months of our wedding!! i was very confused by this b/c its not like FH will be un-baptised in 6 months.... then the guy told me that 'thats the rule of the catholic church' thats basically like saying 'because we said so'

if someone knows the reason behind this & not just because the church said so then please let me know lol

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Posted by Ilovebriani

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Posted by Espo22

it's weird bc Joe and I didn't even have to meet with the priest to book the church. He went in and asked them what he has to do, they gave him an application with the date, time and all of that info. He brought it back home and I filled it out, and then he went by himself to drop it off. They called me two weeks later just to confirm with me. I asked what do we do next and he was like don't worry for now you have nothing to do, just 6 months before bring baptism certificate and to do pre-cana

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you are lucky! some churches seem pretty strict about it.

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wELL I think it might be because they know FH very well...He was an alter boy there, did his CCD there, his mother taught CCD for years. SHe is in the choir, goes to church EVERY sunday and of course holidays because she sings in the choir. She does fundraising for them and ive been there when the church calls her to ask her to help with such things. So yeah the church knows Fh's family pretty well so i guess that is why it was easy.

lol, what would have been the difference?!

you think they would be glad you were doing it in advance!

some of the things they come up with I swear they just make up...lol.

each church seems to have different rules as well.

my FH parents are seperated and i heard that some churches allow you there and some dont...

What is the difference!!

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Posted by ItalianBride428

denise...what church is that??


lolo, j/k...

I am glad it was that easy! my church is notorious for pulling stuff like this so I actually am not super suprised.

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well I am guessing it has to do with Jane lol, shes a big deal over there haha