Annoyed with FMIL

So my FMIL went out and bought her dress like two weeks after we booked our hall. She calls me and tells me she bought her dress and it's navy blue and she knows my mother is supposed to have the first pick so if it's a big deal she'll return it. My mother said whatever and didn't care. My mom finally finds a dress a week ago. I tell FMIL the the color and everything. My mother went a week later returned that dress and got a different one in beige. MY FMIL not knowing this went yesterday returned her dress and got another in the same color. Unbelievable. My mother said she loves her dress and is not returning it which I don't think she should. When FH told his mother she said she loves her dress too and if my mother didn't care about having the same color then she would keep hers too. My mom said that was fine even though I knew she was annoyed but just didn't want to cause problems for me but I'm pissed!!

Do you girls think I'm wrong for being mad?

well you did tell her the color of your Mom's dress and then your Mom returned that dress. I wouldn't be mad. She did try. I'd be annoyed at my Mom truthfully since she bought a dress, I called my FMIL and then she returned it for something else.

Plus, whats the big deal if they wear the same color? Am I missing something?

no, that's extremely annoying of your FMIL BUT it's not the end of the world ...

i'd probably try to get her to return it, but if she doesn't want to, then whatever ... let the moms match.

My mother returned her dress for a new one but she had no idea that after months my FMIL was going to return hers two days later.

The mother of the bride and the grooms mother are not supposed to wear the same color but whatever it is what it is at this point. I personally think my FMIL should return hers.

lolo! I'm an idiot bc I'm thinking..cool, they bought the same color and they match. haha. OOPS!

i feel your pain, my MIL did the same thing..my mom got her dress and i told her all about it, told her the color and everything even showed her a picture of it...it was champagne color

couple months later mil is all excited she found her dress! i was all excited too, she shows me a picture and it comes in 3 colors! blue, pink, and buttercream..aka the same color my mom dress! guess which color she got? the buttercream! yay! my mom was kinda pissed too!

all in all you are the only one people are going to be looking at soo dont stress it too much!

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Posted by chrisandjeanne

Personally...your mom should have 1st choice..and if she decides to change her mind a million times she has the right...i'm suprised your FMIL went out soo quickly to by a dress. In my situation I have a mom, step mom and FMIL and My FMIL is so nice about everything, saying that understands that my mom has 1st choice and she won't purchase a gown until my mom and stepmom buy a dress.

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Mine did the same thing..

Do you think that maybe your FMIL was unhappy with her dress, so when she got the word about your moms original color thats why she returned it so fast? Did you call your FMIL when your mom changed the color you originally told her about?
If not, you really can't be upset with her, especially since it isn't like it was done in malice...

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Posted by FutureMrsDe

My mother would not be fine. That was rude of her to even say that she should Know better of wedding etiquette .

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Yes, but at the same time she said that her FMIL didn't know her mom returned the dress and got a beige one. she called with the original color her mom picked, who then changed it again...

The color of my mothers original dress was a very light brown alittle darker then beige. I nver expected my FMIL to take back her dress months later for another one and my mother got her new dress on Friday, I found out on Saturday and no I didn't not run and call my FMIL right away thinking she was keeping her navy blue dress to find out last night that she went and got a beige dress which in my opinion would still have been a very close color to my mom's original. My FMIL is not a mean person in anyway and I know this wasn't done intentionally but it still bothers mebecause she ran and bought her dress first even thought she knew she should have waited and now this.

Ask yourself this- how important is it?
If years to come after your wedding you think you will be upset about it, say something- if years from now it wont be that important then let it go.
Everyone's eyes will be on you that day- not your mom and not FMIL.

Ah, Ok I didn't realize they were so close in colors. I can see where you would be upset...however look at it this way (and i try to do this everytime my FMIL/FSIL get a bit too much)
-They are so excited that you are becoming a part of their family, sometimes they can't help the way they act!!!

A friend of mine recently posted this joke/ story on my fb wall and I thought you may get a laugh out of it..its not your situation but would be funny if your mom could do this to your FMIL

'Jennifer's wedding day was fast approaching. Nothing could dampen her excitement - not even her parent's nasty divorce.
Her mother had found the PERFECT dress to wear, and would be the best-dressed mother-of-the-bride ever!
A week later, Jennifer was horrified to learn that her father's new, young wife had bought the exact same dress as her mother!
Jennifer asked her father's new young wife to exchange it, but she refused.''Absolutely not! I look like a million bucks in thisdress, and I'm wearing it,'' she replied.
Jennifer told her mother who graciously said, ''Nevermind sweetheart. I'll get another dress. After all, it's your special day.''
A few days later, they went shopping, and did find another gorgeous dress for her mother. When they stopped for lunch,Jennifer asked her mother, ''Aren't you going to return the other dress? You really don't have another occasion where you could wear it.' Her mother just smiled and replied, ''Of course I do, dear.
I'm wearing it to the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding.''

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Posted by Lovebug2016

A friend of mine recently posted this joke/ story on my fb wall and I thought you may get a laugh out of it..its not your situation but would be funny if your mom could do this to your FMIL

'Jennifer's wedding day was fast approaching. Nothing could dampen her excitement - not even her parent's nasty divorce.
Her mother had found the PERFECT dress to wear, and would be the best-dressed mother-of-the-bride ever!
A week later, Jennifer was horrified to learn that her father's new, young wife had bought the exact same dress as her mother!
Jennifer asked her father's new young wife to exchange it, but she refused.''Absolutely not! I look like a million bucks in thisdress, and I'm wearing it,'' she replied.
Jennifer told her mother who graciously said, ''Nevermind sweetheart. I'll get another dress. After all, it's your special day.''
A few days later, they went shopping, and did find another gorgeous dress for her mother. When they stopped for lunch,Jennifer asked her mother, ''Aren't you going to return the other dress? You really don't have another occasion where you could wear it.' Her mother just smiled and replied, ''Of course I do, dear.
I'm wearing it to the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding.''

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I love this! I would so do something like that!

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Posted by Lovebug2016

A friend of mine recently posted this joke/ story on my fb wall and I thought you may get a laugh out of it..its not your situation but would be funny if your mom could do this to your FMIL

'Jennifer's wedding day was fast approaching. Nothing could dampen her excitement - not even her parent's nasty divorce.
Her mother had found the PERFECT dress to wear, and would be the best-dressed mother-of-the-bride ever!
A week later, Jennifer was horrified to learn that her father's new, young wife had bought the exact same dress as her mother!
Jennifer asked her father's new young wife to exchange it, but she refused.''Absolutely not! I look like a million bucks in thisdress, and I'm wearing it,'' she replied.
Jennifer told her mother who graciously said, ''Nevermind sweetheart. I'll get another dress. After all, it's your special day.''
A few days later, they went shopping, and did find another gorgeous dress for her mother. When they stopped for lunch,Jennifer asked her mother, ''Aren't you going to return the other dress? You really don't have another occasion where you could wear it.' Her mother just smiled and replied, ''Of course I do, dear.
I'm wearing it to the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding.''

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LOVE this!




And honestly... as long as your FMIL is not showing up in white... I think everything will work out just fine