Annoying BM! long vent

I have one BM who has nothing but give my sister and everyone in my BP a hard time

She is getting married 1 month before me and she acts like I should plan my wedding after hers

I asked her yesterday if she would like to stay over my Dad's the night before- we have the rehearsal and it was like what I asked her to do ( she live in NYC- the wedding is at exit 62 on the LIE) - and my other NYC BM is excited to stay over

According to her it's too early for her to tell me- and 'she hasn't planned hers yet'

But I need to plan mine early b/c of the holidays plus I was planning on having hair and make up people and they need to know how many

I am sick accommodating her bridezillaness and I am doing everything for her wedding- which is out of state- ( $200 a night hotel- for 2 nights)

PS- my Dad also paid for the dresses

am I really asking to much here?

You are not asking a lot at all. She needs to calm down and realize that the world doesn't revolve around her wedding! You should tell her that you need a definitive answer, otherwise, she's responsible for herself.

Sounds like she's honestly just jealous that you're accomplishing a lot and you're organized.

Same situation happened to me, but fortunately not with a BM. One of FI's best friend is getting married a month before us, and his FI goes out of her way to make sure we're aware that their wedding is first and more important....if it's not asking me to reschedule my vacation b/c it was scheduled during her E.Party it was making sure that we don't have any fittings while they're on their HM...W T F????

Sounds like you're being perfectly reasonable and just trying to get things done!! Sorry she's being a pain. I guess she figures you shouldn't be up to anything that she's not up to, but it doesn't always work that way. Considering that your other NYC BM is staying over I would think that she would too.

I was truely only thinking it would be easier for her-

now I don't even want her there- none of the other girls like her

she freaked out on my little 22 year sister for accidently suggesting to have my shower the same day as her bachlorette party- Freaked out-
she could have just nicely reminded her- plus my sister was just checking the date to see if it was ok with everyone

she gave my sister 10 dates that were no good for her- my sister is running out of days!

OMG! your dad paid for their dresses? that's SO generous!!!!!!! wow

IMO, you should tell her that you need to know by the end of July so that you can give your hair & MU people an accurate head count.

it's not your fault that you're a better planner than she is.

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Posted by Swan06

I hate inconsiderate people. If it were me I'd dump her!!! I don't need the added stress.

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I was so temped to say that- I had to bite my tongue!

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Posted by Swan06

I hate inconsiderate people. If it were me I'd dump her!!! I don't need the added stress.

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ditto!

kick her to the curb...if you dont even want her at your house in the morning- they why woudl you still want her to be in your pictures and part of your special day?

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Posted by JPC1125

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Posted by Swan06

I hate inconsiderate people. If it were me I'd dump her!!! I don't need the added stress.

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ditto!

kick her to the curb...if you dont even want her at your house in the morning- they why woudl you still want her to be in your pictures and part of your special day?

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I guess I am hoping she will go back to the way she was- she is my 'best freind'

Wow....maybe she doesn't realize she's the only bride on the planet!

You should tell your sister to plan shower on the day that's the most convenient for everyone...especially you! If she can't make it, well...too bad.

Maybe you could approach her and say 'Well, since your wedding is right around the same time as mine, I'm sure you know how important it is to get things settled as early as possible to make things go more smoothly. I need a definite answer from you because I have to organize things based on your answer. Plus, isn't it GREAT that your getting married a month before me, so by the time my wedding comes you have no more headaches with planning and it should be so much easier to plan your schedule? '

HTH

honestly I don't see what the big deal is

and it wouldn't have been if she hasn't been so difficult along

I really let her have it in a email- she even denied all of the things the BP said she has done

like trying to have my Shower and stuff in June- for my december wedding- so it wouldn't interfere with hers- and yes she realy said that

She should be learning from you, and realizing she needs to make plans ahead of time too. What can i say, some people have thick skulls.
Hope it works out for you Beth.

I would tell her you need an answer NOW. It should not be that hard of an answer. If I lived in NYC I would stay at your dads...easier for me. If she says no, then tell her its her deal now, she has to fend for herself.

You can stress yourself out wondering what the hell she is going to do one month before when you have your own things to be taking care of at that point.

Run with it, it ***** when one person makes you second guess yourself on choices you have made. Good Luck, I hope that she is able to realize and get a taste of her own crap.