Annoying Co-worker vent!!!

This just got under my skin...

At work today my stomach was bothering me...just a little queasy since AF is here. I was talking to a friend of mine at work about my stomach bothering me, when one of the new agents came in (who does not know me from adam) and said 'well, maybe you're pregnant'. Now, there is nothing more that I want than to eventually have kids, but we just got married, I'm in grad school and working part time, and DH and I are not anywhere near a financial situation to start a family. So I said 'If I was, I would jump out of the nearest window'. He then goes on this rant on how having babies is the most important thing a woman could do. While I agree that having a baby will be one of biggest deals in my life, I explained that I had to finish my degree first and get into a better financial situation before we can start a family. You know what this a$$ said to me? He scoffs and says 'yeah, you are going to wait until, what? 45? (not that it matters, but I'm only 28) Everyone now a days wants all these material things and are all about themselves. You want to get as much material stuff as possible?'. Now, normally I am pretty level headed, but it took every once of control I had not to ring his neck. If having any form of a roof over my head makes me a selfish materialistic beyotch, then I guess I am! So selfish of me not to want to have my kids living in a cardboard box or hearing mommy and daddy fighting constantly about bills! And I'm selfish for wanting to finish my masters that I am only months away from complleting and actually have a good career so we can have a decent quality of life? He actually smirked and shook his head at me! My friend came to my rescue and told him off.

DH and I were engaged for a very long time and we got very minimal rude annoying comments. Now, 2 weeks after being married I am being laughed at because I don't want kids right away? I am not freaking out about this, I just wanted to share and I was wondering if anyone else had a situation like this?

Wow. I am angry at just reading that.

First of all, it really pizzes me off that the first thought when I'm sick is 'Maybe she's pregnant.' Can't I just get SICK? That happened at my job and when I heard people saying that, I shut down all talk about that immediately; it's really unprofessional for people to speculate about the state of anyone's uterus, newly married or not.

And calling you selfish? Having a baby is the most important thing a woman can do - really, every woman? So what does he say to a woman who has fertility issues? Some freaking nerve.

jerk...i see his real intention...but that was far from his place at all...some people are selfish and as a parent, it annoys me to watch people be selfish b/c once they have the kids, they want things to stay the same...well, they don't. your world is suddenly ruled by a tiny person and that's hard for those selfish people to take.

some people....


eta---i wrote my reply twice and got 'bumped off LIW' so this is far from my original rant...

also, he has no right cramming his propaganda down your throat...you didn't ask for it! you can be sure you provide well for your future kids by getting a degree and settling in and that isn't selfish! that's smart.

indeed, he gets suz's asshat award for the day!!!

It's funny you guys are talking about.

one of my co-worker that I'm really cool with, was having all the symptoms of a morning sickness and I jokingly said maybe you are pregnant.

She was really upset that I said it, because her and her Husband have been trying to have kids and she has not been able to get pregnant. She had stopped the treatment because it was getting too expensive.
I felt really bad after that because I knew they wanted a baby.
People should really think about what they say, even if it's to their close friend.

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Posted by Wintersbride

yeah, you are going to wait until, what? 45? Everyone now a days wants all these material things and are all about themselves. You want to get as much material stuff as possible?'.

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I would have kicked his butt (or 'accidently' spilled my tea on him!). I have no patience for people who judge others without knowing their situation, nor can I tolerate people who expect that all other people share their values /beliefs. If wanting to provide a good home for a child and the best possible envirionment for their growth is 'selfish' then I guess the world needs more 'selfish' parents and less people like this asshat.



to you

'Maybe you're pregnant' to someone he doesn't even KNOW?! That's the rudest I've heard in a long time. And then to berate you for wanting to complete life goals that are NONE OF HIS BUSINESS. Ok. Let me shut up now before I say something that will get me banned.



You rock. Feel better. Ignore him.

wow - that got me so mad just reading it!!!!

that is a terrible thing to say to someone!

i think i am speechless!!