Another FMIL Vent

Ok I know everyone has been having trouble with their FMIL’s. I love my fiance’s mother mind you ... but UGH!

Yesterday FH and I went out for the day since the weather was nice. So we went into the city and walked around. FH left his cell phone at home and apparently his mother was calling him all day to ask him about flights to NY because she was getting confused. Ok fine no problem. But when we got home she left this message stating how much he is breaking her heart by not calling her back, how she loves him and she doesn’t understand why he is not calling her back and if this is how it is going to be then she doesn’t see the point in coming to the wedding at all. WHAT! I am listening to the message and I was dumbfounded. FH has been calling her all week leaving messages because he needed information for his passport.

FH calls her and asks her what would make her leave a message like that. How she is his mother and of course he wants her there. So she calms down about that but then she starts telling him that he should pay for his sister’s (& sister’s family) flight and hotel since they are in the wedding party and times are hard for them.

FH said no because we are paying for the whole wedding ourselves (which is true) and we told them about the wedding a year and a half ago asking them to be in our wedding party. Which they had no problem doing. I would love to pay for their hotel and flight but money is already tight with having to pay for everything else ourselves. I am literally living on PB&J for lunch every day. I just don’t know what to do!

Thank you guys for listening sorry this was a long one.

I'm so sorry about your FMIL. I know how annoying they can me. Mine is jumping down our throat about how we were supposed to put china and silverware and pots and pans on our registires. UMMM we don't want china and we have pots and pans and silverware coming out our ears. Then she complains that we are getting married out of state and having our hm their also , so we are taking both our cars. She said that is tacky. UMMMm we need the room to carry luggage, party favors, my dress etc.
I don't think you should pay for the flights or hotel. If you have the money great ! but I know we are not, we are paying for everything ourselves and def do not have the money to do that.
Again I am sorry you are dealing with this !!! Good Luck !!
PS- I think we are all in the same boat about FMIL's I think they are ALL nuts !!!

Wow, sounds like FMIL was having a bad day. I hope she and FH sister understands why you can't pay for the flight! It irks me when people know something is coming up and do not plan for it! My sibs sometimes cry poverty around christmas. I'm like: You know it's coming all year!!!!! Peope are just silly!!! Hope everything gets better

Oh honey, I am sooo sorry. I'm just really convinced that most FMIL's see it as we're STEALING their lil boys away. My SIL to be, told me yesterday that she heard FMIL on the phone telling someone about our disagreement and saying 'I told you NO one comes between me and my Kids'. *** she really is a crazy bird. As for paying for the their tickets, I think that is insane for anyone to expect you to do that. I think people think that all & have money trees growing in their yards. Well GL and all I can tell ya is stand your ground.

Thanks guys for listening.
We are really holding our ground on not paying for anything that we dont have to.