another invitation question

FH and I ordered our invitations. We are paying for 99.99% of the wedding ourselves. My mom is paying for the flowers and my dress.

We worded the invitations:

'Together with our parents.......'

My mom is now giving me the guilt trip because her name isn't on the invitation. I've explained that if I put her name, I have to put FILs (who aren't contributing) and I also have to put my dad, who will be there as a guest but has no other role in the wedding (my mom is the parent who raised me).

Now I feel like a bad daughter...did I do the right thing? or should I just s*ck it up and put her name, my dad's name and the FILs on the invitation?

It's amazing the power of the mother guilt trip. No matter how old I get, I can't escape it.

Thoughts, please.

I personally think that writing together with your parents is fine... unfortunately *I* got s*cked in to writing everyone's names and have a paragraph at the top of our invitation.

Can't complain too much though, bc my mom and FIL's are helping a lot - but we put my dad on too and he's not paying for anything.

Oh trust me I know the mother guilt trip far too well

I think you made the right choice. I was always under the impression that who ever pays for the wedding gets their name on the invitation. If you have 99.9% of the costs it should be you and FH inviting everyone alogn with your parents.

JMO

If I had to list everyone, I'd have a paragraph too! The best part is I've been telling my mom for months that that's how I was wording the invitations. She was fine with it - until I told her that I ordered them. The right away it became 'ok, fine - I just thought you'd put my name on them'

ARGH!!! I am at the point where I can't wait for this wedding to be over with!

Thanks for making me feel better about my decision.

Oh and the worst part about the guilt? I'm 40!!! And she still has that power!!!!