I am repeatedly hearing that Mrs. Jane Smith is a totally incorrect way of addressing a married woman. We see it all the time though.
As the hostess of a shower, I don't feel right about just writing Mary Smith, and I've never met some women and don't know their husband's names. Mrs. implies 'belonging to'. How totally wrong do you think that is?
What about addressing an invite to a widow?
Becky
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I don't know what the proper etiquette is, but I would just put Mary Smith. I think that Mrs. Husband's Name Smith is way too formal for a shower invite and I kind of think that Mrs. Mary Smith is too formal as well. Of course, I guess that depends on what kind of shower you are throwing. I would think it was very strange if I received a shower invite and it was adressed to Mrs. My Husband's First Name and Last Name. I would feel like the person sending the invite didn't bother to find out MY name.
pinkstar025
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I would put either mary smith, or mrs. mary smith......its not ther WEDDING invites..its the shower..either would be perfectly fine!
May2004
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For a shower invite:
Mrs. Mary Smith (for a married/widow women) Ms. Mary Smith (for a single, divorced w/madden name women)
and when in doubt just use Mary Smith.
I hope its helpful.
samsbride
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I posted this somewhere else but I really get offened when people assume a woman has dropped her first name after marriage.
She may have changed her last name but not her first name. People will tell you it is proper and traditional. I think it's very outdated (it comes from a time when women were property of the men they married so they added an 's' to the man's name to reflect she was a posession)
Lots of women are offended by this these days so be mindful of that. Even my FI thinks it is offensive to drop my first name and insert his. His first name is his and he is sharing his last name.
