I am starting to feel sooo overwhelmed by everything! I never thought I would feel this way, but i am hating it. I am so nervous and not about the getting married to Sal part, but the wedding day itself. I know we shouldn't forget what it's all about, but lets face it... this is what we have been planning all year. I am trying to quit smoking and diet all at the same time. I am feeling miserable! Sorry to whine but I don't know what else to do.
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I dont think you are alone. I started to feel that way around the 2 month mark. I felt like I'd been planning the whole time for some event that was far in the future, so it almost didnt seem real....then it hit me all of a sudden. It passed though...you will be fine.
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god I hope so. It's all I think about and all I dream about. Last nights dream was that i didn't have time to shave! LMAO
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First of all: BIG congrats for quitting smoking! Yes, it's overwhelming, especially wedding and diet, etc. Just remember to try and take some 'me time' Now that the weather is nice, go for a walk, read a book, watch a crappy 80's movie. Give yourself permission to do NOTHING related to the wedding, or work, or housework for at least an hour a day.
And if you need a walking partner, FM me, I'll meet you!
Keep up the good work!
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oh I am sorry.....i shared similar feelings a few weeks back with the planning and moving...etc, I never felt that way about marrying FH, but just all of it can be overwhelming....i think what you are feeling is normal and bound to happen even to those of us who thought it wouldnt....i include myself in this I hope you are feeling better soon....and know that you can always pop on here and find someone who shares your feelings for sure
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you are not alone
i have 33 days until my wedding and i am feeling overwhelmed lol. Like you said its not the part about getting married but whats left to do 2 years of planning and i hit a brick wall now W** lol. I am very excited for the day to come but i look at my list which isn't even that long and just think 'AHHHH NO MORE' hahahaha. The worst part is that i had a few more pounds i wanted to lose, was working out and doing well and then i break my stupid foot which i am so annoyed about, i cant really work out. I do my arms but still doesn't feel like i am doing as much as i would like, and dont know if i'll be able to really do much before the wedding, its very frustrating bc out of all times for this to happen it just had to happen now, which also slowed me down with getting other things done.
On top of that i had to take care of my apartment before getting married so going through all that and a closing coming up sometime soon, then having to wait now a bit to put an offer on the place we like and have to start doing the work for that.
Ok let me stop bc i can go on about this hahahaha.
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I was down for a while too. As soon as the invites went out it was one problem after another with family and friends. We even had to replace a groomsman two months before the wedding! But as its getting closer i realize that its going to be the best day ever. We put so much time and effort into making it a special day for us and everyone and we won't let anything get us down that day!
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You are not alone.
I am trying to drop like 50 additional pounds by November (only 23 down thus far)... Trying to get FH to quit smoking by the wedding/honey moon. We went as far as requesting a nonsmoking room for the honey moon!
I am sick to my stomach over all this planning and while other girls are jumping for joy as the countdown goes by while I'm freaking the funk out over here - I know I have over 200 days and what not, but I just am really nervous about all the details. My FMIL and I disagree with everything - two totally diff style people we are and she's very very involved - more so than my mom. My mom could care less about most of this wedding crizap. ARGG!
Point is, I hear you! Vent to us, it's what we're here for
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I was feeling like this too. When I started to cry about the BM dresses, I knew I had to find another way of tackling what needed to be done. I think part of the problem is we put a lot of pressure on ourselves -- and we drive ourselves crazy with unreasonable expectations. I planned a ridiculous amount of DYI projects and I was basically doing it all on my own (FH has crazy hours). Try to delegate as much as you can -- get FH, family, and BP to do as much as they can.
This site is great too because often other brides have the same idea and have already done the legwork. Everyone here is so willing to share!
Feel better!!!!
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awww I'm sorry you're feeling this way Don't worry it will all come together, don't stress
Randilotus
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It is so nice to know I am not alone. I am really starting to feel like I'm going crazy! I am praying to god that this passes real soon and that the excitement comes back!
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Posted by Randilotus
It is so nice to know I am not alone. I am really starting to feel like I'm going crazy! I am praying to god that this passes real soon and that the excitement comes back!
awww dont let it bring you down though. I am overwhelmed by getting things down but i am excited about it, i wish everything was done already so i could be JUST excited hahaahha...MONTHS ago i was getting a bit down but then realized W** its one time in my life and from NYE and on i have enjoyed it and really tried making the best of it even during bad times. I had misfortune after misfortune, but what can you do, thats life and dont let it bring you down and take away from your experience
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You are def not alone - its getting so bad with me FH and I are at eachothers throats!! Plus I move saturday, Im still getting better, trying to get back to work, i cant find shoes, im racing to get everything done - its just madness
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Posted by Randilotus
It is so nice to know I am not alone. I am really starting to feel like I'm going crazy! I am praying to god that this passes real soon and that the excitement comes back!
Yea don't let it get to you. I remember when I would have too much stress and something else came up, I would get a headache and dizzy, i felt like my pressure would drop... I had to talk myself out of feeling this way, it was horrible. But honestly it was only a few times.
Everytime I saw my fiance the wedding planning wasn't so bad cause he'd make me smile. I'd focus on us and how making our day special together was gonna be worth it and it was a beautiful day
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It is so nice to know I am not alone. I am really starting to feel like I'm going crazy! I am praying to god that this passes real soon and that the excitement comes back!
awww dont let it bring you down though. I am overwhelmed by getting things down but i am excited about it, i wish everything was done already so i could be JUST excited hahaahha...MONTHS ago i was getting a bit down but then realized W** its one time in my life and from NYE and on i have enjoyed it and really tried making the best of it even during bad times. I had misfortune after misfortune, but what can you do, thats life and dont let it bring you down and take away from your experience
Thanks Denise, I know I am trying and I totally understand about one thing after another. That's all the past few months have been around here. First being pregnant, then loses the baby, now month to month testing. I had put off everything about the wedding and now it's coming fast. With all the stress FH and I have been fighting (which I know is understandable with all the stress) but we really never did before. And now tonight I fought with my mom and her bf. It is just getting to be too much. I know the day will come and everything will be ok but it just getting there that stinks! Thanks to all of you girls, don't know what I would do if I didn't have somewhere to vent!!!
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I totally am...but it will all get done and it will all be worth it! Thats what I keep telling myself so I dont go crazzzzy!
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I am totally with you....I feel just as I cross something off the list, something else gets added. Not to mention I'm feeling overwhelmed by the entire COST of the wedding, all the little things are adding up
But I love having this to vent and talk about things, all of my BFF's and BM's are either single, or in long term relationships waiting for their significant other to step up to the plate, or freshly divorced...so I feel like I can't really talk much about wedding planning and stuff, b/c I feel like it's really the last thing they want to hear about, even though it's the only THING I can THINK about!!! lol Sorry but I feel better
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you are NOT alone at All....
ive been getting severe anxiety attacks....im really nervous about a few things in particular....
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double post
dannisayz
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You are not alone. I feel the same way. I woke up this morning in a severe panic about everything. I have less than 3 months to quit smoking and lose a substantial amount of weight. Plus, FH and I are trying to save for a house while living with my FMIL.
