I don't know if it's that I DON'T want children, or if I am SCARED to have children.
All of our friends are popping out babies like crazy. DH says he is too selfish to ever have children, and he has recently been saying he DOESN'T want kids. I never know what he wants!
I CANNOT deal with PAIN! That is why I don't want children. I don't think I could go through with it! I would never stop complaining the whole 9 months of pregnancy and I don't think I could deal with the actual giving birth!
I wouldn't have them anytime soon. I am only 25. DH will be 31. I am definately NOT ready yet!
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my age sitaution with fh is the SAME as yours- im 25 hes 31. were waitting 4-5 years. im not ready either. with our dual incomes i want a few years to be selfish- indulge in nice clothes and bags and trips. i need to get that out of my system before i have a baby.
fh understands this and is onboard. eta- i wrote dh its fh for me
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I don't think this is something you need to worry about rigth now. Enjoy your time with your DH, do all of those things you want to do and just let things progress naturally. You might feel differently in a few years - you may start to want children, or you may decide that it's just not for you. There's no right or wrong answer!
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I'm not sure if I ever want children. FH is the same. We both are open to the possibility that in the future (5/6 years down the road) we might change our minds and want children, but right now I have no desire to have kids.
I think part of me is afraid of having kids. I am the youngest, never babysat, didn't work at any camps - really have had limited interactions with children/babies. Usually when someone has a new baby all my friends run over to hold the baby and I totally run the other way! They are just so tiny - it is intimidating.
We'll see.....
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No kids here. I just wasnt born with the mommy gene. Im terrible with kids and I've known for a very long time that I dont want children. FH doesnt want them either.
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I have a different problem, we both want kids but DH wants them now! I'm 23 he is 28; I want to wait a couple of more years and sometimes him and our friends just say that I don't want to have kids because I'm making him wait.
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We will be 27 (me) and 32 (FH) when we get married so we want time to be selfish and travel, all that good stuff!!!
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Posted by jar823
I wouldn't have them anytime soon. I am only 25. DH will be 31. I am definately NOT ready yet!
Ugh and whenever FH and I mention that we are considering NOT having children, they act like we just confessed to murder or something awful.
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Posted by CalJoe0124
We will be 27 (me) and 32 (FH) when we get married so we want time to be selfish and travel, all that good stuff!!!
us too....we want to do some traveling first. We just got married in may we're 26-27...were gonna wait a couple of years...I want to go to London,Amsterdam and Hawaii first.
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Posted by usuk2004
I don't think this is something you need to worry about rigth now. Enjoy your time with your DH, do all of those things you want to do and just let things progress naturally. You might feel differently in a few years - you may start to want children, or you may decide that it's just not for you. There's no right or wrong answer!
Exactly!!!!
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I can say firmly right now that I don't want them - I'm so selfish and FH and I need time together but I don't like to say never because I change my mind all of the time. I'll come back to the question in 4 or 5 years, when I'm 30 and see how I feel then.
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DH and I do not want kids. I just don't seem to have that desire to have any. When people ask me when are we planning on having any they are not to happy with my response. As if its any of their business.
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Posted by divabride
No kids here. I just wasnt born with the mommy gene. Im terrible with kids and I've known for a very long time that I dont want children. FH doesnt want them either.
Same here. We had that conversation early on in our relationship and we were both on the same page. BTW, I'm 38 and FH is 41.
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Both FH and I want children and we will have them when we are ready.
However, I am a firm believer that people who don't want children should NOT have them. No matter if people think you will be a good parent or not. I'd hate to see any form of resentment towards a child for being perceived as a hindrance to a person's lifestyle - single OR married. Not all married people want children and everyone else should mind their own business.
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I respect anyones decision to have children or not.. I just wanted to say I had my son when I was 24 and I did not realize how young I was at the time. I did not get to do enough after college. If I could do it all over again I would have waited until now (28)
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We definitely don't want them. Fiance is 30, I am 26, and neither of us have ever wanted to have kids. I have 12 nieces and nephews and he has 2 - that's more than enough kids for our families.
We don't like the idea that we'll never get to create a life together or see what a combination of the two of us turns out to be, but that's only one negative to a bunch of positives.
I get so annoyed when people tell us 'Oh, you'll change your mind when you're older,' or 'You HAVE to have kids!' Um, no, we won't and we don't.
Yeah, he would be the best father in the world and I would be a very good mother, but it's not for us.
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I'm 26 and I just don't know right now. I think there might be a point in the future when I will want one more than anything in the world, but for now we are just too busy and enjoying our time together, spending money and planning vacations. I know I can't say either way for sure right now though.
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right now we dont want them but maybe in like 5-6 years we will be ready. but i dont feel like i have the mommy gene. i dont feel like i want them hopefully this change. we have talked serioulsy about this and we might just end up with one kid.
