Anyone else feeling overwhemled?

Fo whatever resaon I had a complete breakdown today. It only lasted five minutes, but this is SO unlike me. I think everything is finally catching up w/ me. I know it is my fault because for whatever reason I feel that I have to do EVERYTHING. FI, family and friends have offered to help, but I always decline. I think it is a control issue w/ me and I feel that it is my sole resonsibility to get EVERYTHING done.

Does anyone else feel this way, or have I really lost it?

We should have our own counseling group.

I feel it!

But I have no one offering to help so it reallly IS ALL ME!

I just try to realize I WANT this day so badly but mostly I just want Jim and that makes a little of the weight off my chest (that and I know we're married so this day is just for us)

I am not trying to say everyone would be confortable doing what Jim & I did but I must admit being married already takes a lot of tension away. The wedding is just a celebration is not the big time pressure of the start of the rest of our lives! (how gloomy) it's the celebration of two lives becoming one. It's a huge weight off my chest to know if I had to push the wedding (which I dont yet) off a few months, its ok. I will have my day, my way no matter what!
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Posted by skew

I think it is a control issue w/ me and I feel that it is my sole resonsibility to get EVERYTHING done.

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I came to the same conclusion today. I wish someone would take care of me for once, instead of me taking care of everything and everyone!!

wedding, job search, $$ issues, bills, broken house things

YES...It comes and it goes

I posted about this last week! Overwhelmed, overworked...burnt out!! and very unmotivated to do things!

you are not alone

i would start making lists of outstanding items. write down how you want things done and then DELEGATE, DELEGATE, DELEGATE. this way you still have 'control' but distribute the labor

it's the little things as well. i called the church to book the rehearsal and she told me i first need to book the singer, the organist, chose my readings and meet w/ the priest. how am i supposed to know that. then i had to finish of the registry today and i was confused about the bath towels (sold as a set). when i asked the 'bath dept' woman what was included in the set she tells me to speak w/ the bridal registry person. another store screwed up my registry the other day and all the items i scanned were placed on someone else's registry, therfore i had to re-register all over again.

re: work (i teach) i am always helping EVERYONE. i would never turn a student away, so a result they ALWAYS come to me for advice. i recently acquired another job function at work (additional $$$), but a lot more work.

i need to get my hair highlighted, get a facial, makeup trial, dress fittings, find shoes, buy a flower girl dress (yes no one offered), type my guest list, send out the invites, block hotel rooms, oot guest bag, favors, BP gifts, veil cleaned, meet w/ florsit again, decide on song list, book a dr and dentist appointment, drop of the drycleaning, clean the house, grade papers, and go grocery shopping.

the list gopes on and on

I JUST went through that last week. I ended up taking 4 days off of work to get stuff done. I'm FREAKING out too!!

Like you said, I think I have control issues - but I've started to let it go. Because I think I will seriously need medication!!!!

I had my breakdown on Friday.

I've been asking FH for his address list for months and he still needs about 15 addresses (including his brother and sister - who doesn't have their siblings' addresses???) I told him they are going to the calligrapher today - if you never get the other addresses, they are not invited. Just can't wait anymore. He says he will help more but who knows. I keep thinking... less than three months to go...

i wouldn't say i am freaking out, just taking on WAY too much. i am not even feeling stressed, just (as someone else mentioned) overwhlmed and overworked. i really can't understand it becuase i am a very mellow person and usually do not let things get to me.

thanks for letting me vent and also for sharing your experiences. i feel SO much better knowing that i am not alone.

You are definitely not alone. I feel like I have so much that I need to still do and I have yet to do it. I have tried delegating but the tasks are not done the way I want and then I feel like I should just do everything myself. (Yes I know that I am a control freak!) My FI thinks that I am crazy but I want things to go off without a hitch.