Others haven't offered a bit of support. I feel like the only thing they will be doing is standing next to me looking pretty on my wedding day.
Is this normal to have a mix of bridesmaids?
I feel a little bad, not terribly bad but a little.
Swan06
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Well, you are luckier than most brides. You actually have some helpful bm's. Some brides don't have any. Good luck!
donegal419
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This is why I am keeping my bridal party SMALL... siblings only. My FSIL just had her wedding this weekend and she had 10 girls.... only 3 of us actually helped her plan her wedding day! IMO, it's better to keep it small, to the people who really mean the most to you and/or have the time and energy to be a supportive BM.
bride2b24
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yeah i def think its pretty normal....from what i read on here most bridesmaids dont do ish!
Swan06
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Posted by donegal419
This is why I am keeping my bridal party SMALL... siblings only. My FSIL just had her wedding this weekend and she had 10 girls.... only 3 of us actually helped her plan her wedding day! IMO, it's better to keep it small, to the people who really mean the most to you and/or have the time and energy to be a supportive BM.
That is great advice for new brides to be!
Anna506
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i think it's normal... 1/2 of my bridal party have been amazing, the other 1/2 MIA. heehee.
Dina
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ugh i know what you mean. only ONE of my bm is any help at all and she is OOT. they're so bad that my mom ended up having to plan my shower all by herself and two of them procrastinated in ordering their gowns for so long that when they went to finally order them 2 wks ago, the dress was discontinued and we had to go out and pick out new ones
VadersBride2006
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There have been so many ups and downs with my BP that it'll be nothing short of a miracle if we even make it to the wedding day!
csui25
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I have the same mix ... my future SIL hasn't done a damn thing and I have a few girls who are on the West Coast so I wasn't expecting too much from them, but everyone else has been helpful.
LBride
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as far as the planning go, it's my job and my FH's to plan the wedding... I picked BMs that have been apart of my life for various reasons, regardless on whether or not they are going to do anything for my wedding
chander618
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I completely understand I have a mix also, one of my bridesmaids is more helpful than MOH
JulyBride0706
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the only times i hear from my bm is for the dress and my bridal shower. it's been a month since i heard from them. i have 5.
Katie&Chris2006
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I think I must be pretty lucky because my girls have been great so far, even though they are scattered across the east coast. Not sure what's going on with shower plans...if some girls are being more helpful than others...and I'm not sure I'll hear until afterwards.
I think it is pretty common to have a mix though. In the last wedding I was in, me and my friend (another BM) basically had to run the show because the majority of the other girls were useless and non-involved.
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one of my FSIL's actually made fun of me for being so 'into' the wedding. No one is really helping me at all, except my MOH. She's the only one that I can tell is really there for me. And she goes with me to so many things... thank GOD for her! The rest of my BP complains about all the costs involved (like it's a shock to them), so much so that my mom had to become involved with paying for my shower with them. Even my brothers were ready to chip in after hearing so many $$ complaints!
One of my BM's didn't think it cost ANYTHING to be in a BP since the last one she was in, the couple paid for EVERYTHING (they were very well off and she was the only one in their BP).
I am upset about one of my BM's who I haven't even SPOKEN to since Valentine's Day when she told me she got engaged! AND her wedding is SUPPOSEDLY early this summer, but she hasn't told me anything. It doesn't feel good.
Thank God for my mom and MOH!
ali120206
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I am not expecting too much from mine since most of them are OOT. I've been doing a lot of things with my mom which I would've done regardless of where they were, I'm an only child and we do a lot together.
I mentioned in March that I would like to order BMs dresses this week and well, I only have gotten measurements from one of the five girls so I'm slightly annoyed about that (I know there's still time but, I'd like to order the dress before it gets discontinued or something and we have a pretty busy summer already!)
I sent a follow up email out yesterday and the only person who responded was, of course, the one that has already sent me her measurements.
ETA: Not that I was expecting their measurements yesterday, just acknowledgement that they will get them!
