I am going to a friend / co-worker's wedding this Saturday and the ceremony & reception will be at a Chinese banquet hall. She is having about 500 people (!!) and the food will be served family style. I know that this is not as expensive as a traditional reception hall, but I'm not really sure how much it's costing her. Any idea what an appropriate gift p/p is for this type of wedding?
TIA!
kris_gets_hitched
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I would just give whatever I would normally give for a friend/co-worker's wedding. I'm not a fan of the 'pay for your plate' concept. If a friend/coworker of mine was having a reception in their backyard, I'd still give the same amount as I would if they had it in a hall. Because what I'm giving is a gift for the couple to use as they begin their lives together.
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Posted by kris_gets_hitched
I would just give whatever I would normally give for a friend/co-worker's wedding. I'm not a fan of the 'pay for your plate' concept. If a friend/coworker of mine was having a reception in their backyard, I'd still give the same amount as I would if they had it in a hall. Because what I'm giving is a gift for the couple to use as they begin their lives together.
I totally agree.
margaritav
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Posted by kris_gets_hitched
I would just give whatever I would normally give for a friend/co-worker's wedding. I'm not a fan of the 'pay for your plate' concept. If a friend/coworker of mine was having a reception in their backyard, I'd still give the same amount as I would if they had it in a hall. Because what I'm giving is a gift for the couple to use as they begin their lives together.
I see what you're saying but I am not trying to be stingy - at the same time I don't want to give too much because that's awkward as well. What's appropriate for a co-worker's wedding? For anyone else I give $150 p/p (for traditional weddings) and if it's family I give more - but this diferent, so I don't want to mess it up. And I want to at LEAST cover my plate, which is also why I am asking.
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For Chinese Wedding you bring money in a red envelope. It is usually collected when you arrive into the banquet hall where you find your seating assignment.
Give what you normally give at weddings. I went to my coworkers wedding in Chinatown at a banquet hall and there were 500 ppl. I gave just over $200. Where the wedding is doesnt matter to me...
Just Cindy
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Usually gifts are $100 pp depending on how close you are to her and what is being served but $100 is a good figure.
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Posted by margaritav
Posted by kris_gets_hitched
I would just give whatever I would normally give for a friend/co-worker's wedding. I'm not a fan of the 'pay for your plate' concept. If a friend/coworker of mine was having a reception in their backyard, I'd still give the same amount as I would if they had it in a hall. Because what I'm giving is a gift for the couple to use as they begin their lives together.
I see what you're saying but I am not trying to be stingy - at the same time I don't want to give too much because that's awkward as well. What's appropriate for a co-worker's wedding? For anyone else I give $150 p/p (for traditional weddings) and if it's family I give more - but this diferent, so I don't want to mess it up. And I want to at LEAST cover my plate, which is also why I am asking.
What is awkward about giving too much money? I don't understand this part...
I interpret this as, you give a certain amount of money only to find out people gave way less than you did. As a result you feel jipped? Is this what you mean feeling awkward?
Just trying to understand what you are saying.
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Posted by Just Cindy
Usually gifts are $100 pp depending on how close you are to her and what is being served but $100 is a good figure.
ITA - $100 is the minimum amount I give per person when I attend weddings.
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Posted by margaritav
Posted by kris_gets_hitched
I would just give whatever I would normally give for a friend/co-worker's wedding. I'm not a fan of the 'pay for your plate' concept. If a friend/coworker of mine was having a reception in their backyard, I'd still give the same amount as I would if they had it in a hall. Because what I'm giving is a gift for the couple to use as they begin their lives together.
I see what you're saying but I am not trying to be stingy - at the same time I don't want to give too much because that's awkward as well. What's appropriate for a co-worker's wedding? For anyone else I give $150 p/p (for traditional weddings) and if it's family I give more - but this diferent, so I don't want to mess it up. And I want to at LEAST cover my plate, which is also why I am asking.
If you're unsure I would say $100 per person is a reasonable gift for a coworker
RPMG26599
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What makes this wedding any different than any other?
My minimum is $100.00 per person. That should be fine =)
margaritav
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Posted by margaritav
Posted by kris_gets_hitched
I would just give whatever I would normally give for a friend/co-worker's wedding. I'm not a fan of the 'pay for your plate' concept. If a friend/coworker of mine was having a reception in their backyard, I'd still give the same amount as I would if they had it in a hall. Because what I'm giving is a gift for the couple to use as they begin their lives together.
I see what you're saying but I am not trying to be stingy - at the same time I don't want to give too much because that's awkward as well. What's appropriate for a co-worker's wedding? For anyone else I give $150 p/p (for traditional weddings) and if it's family I give more - but this diferent, so I don't want to mess it up. And I want to at LEAST cover my plate, which is also why I am asking.
What is awkward about giving too much money? I don't understand this part...
I interpret this as, you give a certain amount of money only to find out people gave way less than you did. As a result you feel jipped? Is this what you mean feeling awkward?
Just trying to understand what you are saying.
What I am trying to say that I don't want to make the recipient feel weird or obligated if I give more than what she would expect. For example, for my shower I got some very expensive gifts from people that I didn't expect much from - I definitely appreciated it, but felt a little guilty, too. Maybe that's just me.
