am i supposed to feel bad about this? i wrote in a previous post about my FBIL inviting one of FH's childhood friends to the wedding without our permission. and we told him no way. well FBIL called FH AGAIN tonight and was like soo whats up with inviting this guy, can we invite him or what? FH told him no and he asked to bring him as his guest. FH told him no again. i feel like i am being guilted into inviting this guy who FH doesnt even hang out with anymore. the bonus is that FBIL invited him to the bachelor party even after being told that theres no way we are inviting him to the wedding. who does that?!?!
Clover23
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sounds like something my fbil would do. and no you're not jerks, he's wayyyyy out of line!
kris_gets_hitched
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I think I missed the original post about this...are you inviting FBIL with a guest? If so, is there something that you and your FH have against this guy?
If not...then it's kind of hard to tell people who they can bring as a guest.
For example, I'm inviting a friend of mine with a guest but I absolutely cannot stand and never get along with this one girl that he's friends with. Because of that, I asked him nicely to please not bring her as a guest. I'm not comfortable around her, and she's a nasty person.
If it's something like that, then I can see why you guys don't want him there.
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we were going to invite him with a guest but when he said he wanted to invite this guy, i thought it was so lame and i got so mad i told FH that we aer not inviting FBIL with a guest anymore. he doesnt have a girlfriend and he originally said he didnt care whether he was invited with a guest or not cuz he wouldnt know who to bring.
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Is there a particular reason you don't want this guy there? Or is it just because FH hasn't seen him in a while? If its the latter, I'd just let it go and let your FBIL bring him as his guest. I don't think you really get to choose who people bring as guests.
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I kinda have bad news for you... I think this guy is going to show up at your wedding with FBIL whether you like it or not.
So maybe you should just wrap your head around it and put him on the B list.
Sorry...
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Posted by springsandra
I kinda have bad news for you... I think this guy is going to show up at your wedding with FBIL whether you like it or not.
So maybe you should just wrap your head around it and put him on the B list.
Sorry...
im going to be hard headed about this because i already lost the FMIL-shouldnt-wear-the-same-color-as-my-BMs battle. i have about 10 people ahead of him on the B list. FBIL is not getting invited with a guest. they can all eff themselves at this point. this is MY wedding and ill cry if i want to
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I totally disagree with the PP...unless your parents are paying for the whole wedding and insist that you invite someone random, there is NOOOOO reason you should feel obligated to invite someone bc your FBIL is being an idiot.
Sorry, this childhood friend is not on the list and if nothing else he should feel stupid coming to a wedding as a snuck in guest!! If I had a casual friend and wasn't invited to their wedding I would feel like a fool showing up with a girlfriend as her guest. If the bride wanted me there, she would have invited me.
FBIL doesn't get a guest, this guy will not have a place card, he will have no meal and nowhere to sit. Then he can call a cab and go home. I would not allow this uninvited person to freeload a night of food and drinks off of me...no f'in way!!!! Stay strong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
kris_gets_hitched
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Did FBIL initially know he was going to be invited with a guest?
If he didn't, then just invite him solo.
If he did...that's a tough one. Because you were already showing him that you'd be willing to invite him with a 'plus one', thus meaning that you have the space and money to accomodate a guest.
On another note, why is this guy to hard up on attending your wedding? Men usually dread going to weddings. Sheesh!
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It kinda sounds like to me that FBIL is looking for a guy friend to 'hang out with' at your wedding. I don't get it.?? I can see someone bringing a friend if they don't know anyone else there and are single but to be thgrooms brother I assume he will know most of the people there.
I don't think you are being a jerk at all. I also don't see the need for your FBIL to bring him. I would tell him if you and your FH wanted him there you would have invited him yourselves. If FBIL really wants to bring a guest tell him to ask a girl friend so atleast it kinda like a date and not someone for him to just party with.
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Is this FBIL's wedding? If your FH wanted him there, that would be one thing but FBIL inviting him? Your FH should set him straight..
