Ever since we started planning this wedding and I moved in with him, FH and I have been arguing more. I am starting to get my fill of his attitude.
september2004
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moving in together will do it...we are currently observing how FH's BM and his wife are managing the under one roof scenario. he lived by himself and she lived with her parents prior to moving in together. we look at them and say 'been there, done that' with each spat that comes up...
add wedding planning on TOP of that,
it took us a year of fighting to finally get used to living with each other. wedding planning has been okay with the occasional brawl here and there when we are tired and stressed...
MrsBrad
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Yes, we are doing a little better now - but our fighting has definitely increased. It's just all the stress of the planning. Hang in there
Jmg11
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our fighting has decreased significantly since moving in together - I have to say our whole relationship has just been so great - BUT I think we both take the fights much more personally now - so when we do have them..they are a little more harsh, does that make sense?
mskimmy98
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Yes we sure are arguing more.. in the middle or some of our fights I sit back and go why are we fighting over the Microwave (who cares)
Stress will do it to ya
fallinlove04
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i feel like we are fighting more and we don't live together yet, but i think it is the stress on both of us. he has his job, he recently has two people under him that he is training, the wedding, and buying a house...i have my job, graduate school, the wedding and buying a house. needless to say things are hectic. i am hoping once some of it calms down so will the fighting. or it could just get worse once we move in.
9.17.04bride
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We are not, I am.............what I mean, is I argue with him and he doesn't respond. Makes me even more angry
StepherG
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My mom told me that the first year living together is the hardest. She was right..my FH and I have lived together since 2001...the first year was the hardest. It's difficult to get used to someone elses way of living, cleaning, eating,throwing out garbage, dishes, etc...
Somehow you end up giving in a little and so do they...
With the wedding stress...ARGHH! It'll get better!
JimmysBride
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You've got two things helping you to fight more -- the wedding stress and your first year of living together which they say (I haven't moved in with FH yet) is an adjustment period. It's normal, just try really hard not to kill each other and instead learn from it, learn how to fight fair, and use it to practice your relationship communication skills which you will invariably need in your marriage. Oh, and just wait 'til pre-cana!! (If that applies)
ETA: It DOES get better so hang in there.
Aga
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I remember when we moved in together we argued almost constantly for about 6 months, but since then we hardly ever fight anymore, I guess we resolved our issues
LIPrincess00
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We are definately arguing more between the stress of the wedding, buying a house (in contract), and his family bull****t. I cant wait until its over and I am sitting on a beach with a drink.
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Posted by 9.17.04bride
We are not, I am.............what I mean, is I argue with him and he doesn't respond. Makes me even more angry
OH I SO HEAR THAT!!!! It's either I DON'T KNOW or SILENCE!!! UGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!
Pookiesangel
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We have been arguing more, but not about wedding related things.. i think the stress of wedding planning, working two jobs (him) me three jobs.. not seeing each other as much as we'd like.. is causing the added friction, FH and both agree things will probably settle down after we move in together, it's a weird thing with us, we fight more apart and hardly ever when we are together.. go figure..lol
Boop2704
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Those are two very stressful things to swallow at one time. You are both learning to live with each other and planning a wedding alone is extremely stressful. You definitely have to give it time. Take time apart as much as you need it. Things will definitly get easier. Maybe take a break for a week or two from wedding planning and just focus on the two of you. I am sorry your so stressed!!But once you get into a routine of living together and learn each others habits and stuff associated with living together, things will get easier. Its a big adjustment!!
butterfly20
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yup....... i get too caught up in planning for everything and sometimes forget to live in the 'now'... between house hunting, job hunting, and wedding planning ive been very neglectful in the past
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Posted by Jmg11
our fighting has decreased significantly since moving in together - I have to say our whole relationship has just been so great - BUT I think we both take the fights much more personally now - so when we do have them..they are a little more harsh, does that make sense?
I totally agree with you, it is the same way for us.
Butterflybride
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In all honestly our fighting has decreased.
Summer05
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I have to agree with the other girls, the first year of living togeather is the hardest! So far (knock on wood) we have not had any disagreements since we began wedding planning, but we still have a year to go!
