Are you FH's FIRST true love???

FH did date other people before me, id like to believe otherwise, but i am his first true love hes never been engaged, and i was his longest relationship

no he did have a GF while in HS that he 'thought' loved then i came along. and he found out what love really is.

I better be since his longest GF was 3mnths

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Alright, i was chatting away with my gurls 2night - do u believe in love at first sight and that there is only ONE 'the one' out there??? lol

Xtina

no ...he has been in love b4 but that was a long time ago I am the longest relationship and the only one he's been engaged to

nor is he mine but the same as above

He was never engaged or married before - he had a habit of breaking up with girls after a couple of months. He did have a long term relationship before me, but it was because after 6 months - when he tried to break up with her she used crazy logic. She told him that he could have sex and do anything with anyone he wanted, but that he should keep dating her too unless he finds someone who he wants to be monagamous with. Somehow I don't think he was 'in love' with her.

BUT - alas - I am not my FH's first true love. Our oldest son has that honor. I know he LOVED me - but the day my son was born was a turning point for him. It was like he suddenly realized love on a whole new level. It made the love we have for each other even deeper than it had been. It brought us from a loving and caring relationship to what we call the 'no matter what' status.

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Posted by discodiva323

Alright, i was chatting away with my gurls 2night - do u believe in love at first sight and that there is only ONE 'the one' out there??? lol

Xtina

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I believe in strong emotion at first sight. I believe in deep chemical reaction at first sight. I even believe that a seedling of love can be awakened at first sight.

BUT I believe love - true love - takes time to develop. When I met FH there was a definite spark. I was really attracted to him and maybe there was some recognition of the potential between us on some deeper subconscious level - but I was NOT in love with him. In fact it was a long time before I even started DATING him, longer still before I LOVED him and even LONGER before that love evolved to the place it is now.

As to only having ONE out there. I think it is a great romantic notion, but I don't believe it is true. I think human beings are capable of great love. I think we can love infinitely. HOWEVER - growing the kind of intense bond that it takes to want to marry someone, have children with someone and put your heart on the line everyday - that takes time. Maintaining it over the years is hard work. I don't know that I would WANT to put in this much effort again in my lifetime if anything were to happen between FH and myself!

we were each other's first love

I don't believe in love at first sight. I am too much of a cynic, having been round the relationship block more times than the ice cream truck. When the FH and I got together, he had been single for a year after a breakup with a g/f of several years and I was just off a really bad relationship. We met on Match.com and though we had great chemistry from day one (we talked for hours every night on the phone after I made him chase me through emails for a month lol) I didn't think it would last. Felt he was too good-looking for me, too serious. I was a committement phobe. You always hear stories of how men are afraid to commit. Well in our case it was me. I even broke our first date 4 times before finally agreeing to meet. And I ahem..pushed things forward fast, deliberately, in attempts to push him away, because you know the saying...'Once they get what they want...'

Didn't work. The third week into our relationship when I went over to his place, he had bought me the brand of razors and shampoo he had seen me bring on my overnight bag and set them up for me in his bathroom. he also bought me my own toothbrush. FREAKED ME OUT! But he's very patient and kept after me. When we finally made a year, it as a milwstone for me because by the 9 month mark, all my other relationships wen down hill. It took 1 1/2 years before I was confident he wasn't going anywhere-we have now been together 4 years.

Our relationship is great because we are truly best friends, but it took alot of work and patience and still does. There's actually a great book out there I think every woman should read by Dr. Laure, called, 'The Proper care and Feeding of Husbands.' It sounds weird but the advice is really sound and after readint it, I learned to let a lot of the smaller things go and our relationship is 1000 times better. You ahve to keep an open mind and after cursing Dr, Laura a few times, you will eventually see most of what she says makes sense. We women often complicate our own love lives-I know I did.

We are using the Rascall Flatts song, God Bless the Broken Road' as our wedding song because we feel it really sums up our relationships before one another-All of his friends told me if he ever lets me go they will kick him out of the club and adopt me lol and same for my friends.

LOve at first sight may not exist but you can find true love as long as you remember it takes patience and work and though it may never be completely sunlight an roses, that doesn't mean it's not worthwhile.

-steps off her soapbox and goes to feed the cat-

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Posted by JenMike331

we were each other's first love

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same here... but i would have choosen this face instead.....

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Posted by PeteysBride




Our relationship is great because we are truly best friends, but it took alot of work and patience and still does. There's actually a great book out there I think every woman should read by Dr. Laure, called, 'The Proper care and Feeding of Husbands.' It sounds weird but the advice is really sound and after readint it, I learned to let a lot of the smaller things go and our relationship is 1000 times better. You ahve to keep an open mind and after cursing Dr, Laura a few times, you will eventually see most of what she says makes sense. We women often complicate our own love lives-I know I did.

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I love Dr. Laura.. listen to her on XM all the time!!!!!

read the book too... just because she talks about it all the time.. great read!

I am definetly my FH's FIRST true love!!!

~dancer and chef~