FMIL is hosting, and said the couldn't bring dates... do you think this is okay?
beautyq115
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
A date...or significant other like a BF/GF/FI or DH?DW?????
I would say not to a date but not to a SO
camerakrazie
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
we are inviting their dates/husbands/wifes/bf/gf
everyone that I have been to..we have been allowed to just as long as they let us know its ok..so if its not ok with FIL then I guess I wouldnt invite them since they are paying
esb980
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
Yeah, like my 2 Bm's Husbands.... she doesn't want them there... and all my BP has some sort of S.O..... she said she doesn't want the 8 extra people there
roxyvelas
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
If they are married definitely and if they've been together for a long time
chapel06
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
We are inviting the BP's dates, because we have a high minimum for the RD and a lot of them are from out of town.
SweetCin704
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
All of our bp is married so they are all invited
However, I had an issue at my last wedding where it was a sticky point b/c groom's parents did not invite long time boyfriends & in one instance the girl was very offended b/c my groom was invited to their rehearsal dinner a year prior & at the time we were dating for 3 months.
I mean its obviously up to his parents if they are paying, but depends on the situation too.
Definitely hubbies/wives/engaged partners should be invited though
lauren721
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
It is kind of rude not to invite them unless they are just dates that they are bringing for the heck of it. People may get annoyed or angry and you don't need that on your wedding day. A couple of more people versus a lot of frustration? If I were you, I would tell her that this is the way it is typically done-- maybe she just doesn't know.
npcaruso1611
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
Only husbands~ if they even want to come~ a lot don't really want to be bothered~
EJSD2006
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
i would think it's okay too. but my FMIL is paying for ours also. and i'm going to their house this afternoon to finalize the #, so i'll let you know later if she allows the S.O.'s or not! I would think if it's a 'serious' relationship then it would be okay.
megsm3
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
yes , but the majority is family and would have been there anyway
jes81276
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
Posted by beautyq115
A date...or significant other like a BF/GF/FI or DH?DW?????
I would say not to a date but not to a SO
My thoughts exactly...I would be offended if FH was in a wedding and I was not invited to the RD.
dbleplay17
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
ours are bringing dates/hubbies
johnsae
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
significant others should be invited
hmpena
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
We invited all those with husbands/wives/significant others to the RD. We felt it was rude not to include them.
kara10152006
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
Posted by hmpena
We invited all those with husbands/wives/significant others to the RD. We felt it was rude not to include them.
Same here. FH was in a wedding last year and I was not invited to the RD and I felt a little left out.
LaurenluvsTJ
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
significant others should definitely be invited. and to answeryour question - yes the members of the BP are bringing dates to the rehearsal dinner.
ewickens
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
I don't think it's okay! We're allowing members of our wedding party to bring their gf's and bf's/wives/husbands - it's the only fair thing to do!!!
waterspout4
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
Spouses and SO, definately. Also, another point to think about............ If they are traveling, I say invite them. Could you imagine traveling OOT and your gf or bf goes to a rehearsal and RD, but you're stuck at the hotel hoping McDonalds is nearby because you have nowhere to go and no car?
We invited all of them with their dates and children
chander618
Posted:
Member since
Re: Are you inviting BP's dates to the RD?
I think they should be allowed to bring significant others, but if their paying you really don't have a choice they may not be able to afford the extra people
