one of my FSIL and I were just casually talking and I said I would never get a divorce unless FH cheated on me or beat me or something horrible like that...other than that I would try my hardest to stay together if we were having problems
All of a sudden she says cheating isnt bad We all do it!!!!!!
I am stunned I dont do it and I dont know anyone else who does it...why get married then??
Her and fh's half brother had a split in the summer and I think I know what happened now...he went off the deep end and no one knew where he went I think she cheated on him and he lost it.
So my question is would you LEAVE your dh for cheating?
palebride
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I think it depends on the situatoin....but I'm pretty sure I would never be able to forgive cheating...so I would probably, most likely, leave him if he cheated. That's insane that people are so noncholant about cheating! We all do it?!?!?!?!?! what is that all about? No we don't!
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Yes, I would leave. I take my vows very seriously, but if he broke his vows and cheated there would be no way I could ever trust him again. Any time he was out without me, I couldn't help wondering...It would break down the foundation of trust we have developed.
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Posted by palebride
I think it depends on the situatoin....but I'm pretty sure I would never be able to forgive cheating...so I would probably, most likely, leave him if he cheated.
ditto! It would be the ultimate betrayal of our commitment. But never say never...
Flylilgrl
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Not before I chop his 'you know what' off!! Then I would leave him in a slipt second.
MamanDaddyof2
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I feel the same as you nov04libride I would always wonder what he was doing
May05Bride
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The second I found out! I would never be able to be with someone who cheated on me! Really, its more than just the physical. But everything else that comes into play. The trust issues, betrayal, and hurt me....
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I would totally end the marriage.
littlewilson
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Depends on the circumstances.
lvdolphins
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Yes! I would be out the door so fast!
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Posted by palebride
I think it depends on the situatoin....but I'm pretty sure I would never be able to forgive cheating...so I would probably, most likely, leave him if he cheated. That's insane that people are so noncholant about cheating! We all do it?!?!?!?!?! what is that all about? No we don't!
I totally agree.
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Ideally, I'd like to sit here and say YES, I would definitely leave, but until you are faced with that situation and the circumstances surrounding it, how do you really know?
for better or for worse, right?
well...you never know!
tanielle5k
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I would hope that the opinion of your FSIL is the exception rather than the rule! I truly do NOT believe that 'everyone does it' that is ridiculous.
myssd
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yes, i don't think i could ever forgive him
suven
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Yes, I would leave. DH and I have 3 unforgivebles:
1. cheating
2. abuse of spouse
3. abuse of children
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I would definitely have to say it depends on the circumstance. Not that one reason for cheating is better than the others. I guess you would have to see what stage you are in life to see. Right now I could never see myself with him if he cheated, yet who is to say what ill think in five years.
I recently found out that my ffil cheated and I would have never known it if it wasnt brought to my attention. This happened a few years ago and I see the way they are together now and its awesome. It just makes me see that there is a possibility to get passed that, you just have to be willing to work hard at it.
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It is easy for me to say yes I would leave if he cheated on me...I've made myself very clear to him about this...I know that I would never be able to trust him again...once trust is broken it is very hard to contiue on...jmo
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IMO...cheating is cheating..no matter what the situation was...IMO the is NO EXCUSE, NO EXPLANATION, NO CIRUMSTANCE that would make me tink differently. So YES it would DEFINATELY be a marriage ender for me!
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Wow, thats absurd everyone cheats!!! Hello!!! NOT!!!! this was a discussion in pre cana and a questioned asked in our FOCCUS test by the church. I put uncertain he put agree ( would leave if future spouse cheated) I dont know its hard to say in 1 hand I dont think I could ever TRUST him again and I would make myself SICK always questioning him and myself as to what and where is he doing and then on the other hand depending on the level of cheating and a family involoved- I dont know. I hope I never have to face this decision, for FH he said he would leave in a heartbeat and I told him that too, I would never tell him I would think about it because to me thats an admission that it may be ok with me. People are human and everyday faced with temptations and just hope for the very best!
