ARGGGHHHH I am so heated right now..

cantwait2bewed Posted: Apr 19, 2005 11:58 AM

ARGGGHHHH I am so heated right now..

One of my BM's said she would not be able to come to my e-party. Now mind u mean and her are pretty close. Her wedding is like 1 month from now in Michigan. So her FH is going away to Puerto Rico for his Bachelor Party this weekend. So she may not have a ride. I told her let me know and I will have someone come to pick her up. She is like i dont want to disturb u on your e-party day. I think she is just trying not to come. But why? I dont know. I am thinking b/c she doesnt work and her FH is the only one that works that she might not be able to bring something and she is copping out. But she should know that I am not greety like that. I couldnt care less. I dont live far from her i can have FH or my parents pick her up.

I try to help her out with her wedding stuff all of the time. I am always there for her. I am always going out of my way for people and I am so tired of it. Well forget it I aint' doing it no more. If she needs help with her wedding let her help her own self. Its like you are my good friend and u can't find a way to come to my party.

And get this another one of my BM's said she might not be able to come either. She gave me so many excuses. I have to calm down.

Maybe i am overreacting. But do u ladies think that your BM's should atleast come to these types of things or should it not matter?

buggiegirl Posted: Apr 19, 2005 12:07 PM

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I definitely think they should come IMO.

You should explain to them that this is a time for your family and friends to all meet if they have not done so, and to celebrate your engagement. If you tell her again how important this is to you and she still will not come, that is really messed up- JMO.

Santoyle Posted: Apr 19, 2005 12:21 PM

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Yes, she should come, she is apart of the wedding. One of the reasons we didn't have an E party was because were not done asking certain people to be on our wedding, and we would like to announce everyone all at once. If she keeps giving excuses ask her if she intends to be apart of everything else you need your BM's to be apart of.

Suzannebride Posted: Apr 19, 2005 12:33 PM

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Well, if she is embarassed about not bringing a gift, maybe you can just say that it would mean a lot for you to be there with me and that's all the gift you need? If you say it means a lot to you and she still says she can't make it maybe she really has another commitment.

Kerrycec Posted: Apr 19, 2005 12:56 PM

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Well I do see her point. I wouldn't stress over it. So she's not there, you can still have fun anyway. Sometimes, I know, it is embarassing to have someone come pick you up, not bring a gift, and be poor. You offering this stuff to her must feel like a pity!!

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Apr 19, 2005 01:55 PM

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Posted by Kerrycec

Well I do see her point. I wouldn't stress over it. So she's not there, you can still have fun anyway. Sometimes, I know, it is embarassing to have someone come pick you up, not bring a gift, and be poor. You offering this stuff to her must feel like a pity!!

Yeah.. that could be possible.

cindyandkevin Posted: Apr 19, 2005 02:08 PM

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Of course she should be there! I can't beleive that she would really cop out on you like that. Try talking to her and ask if it's the bringing something thing, then get someone else to pick her up. If she still insists on not going then you've done all you can. Just enjoy the party and don't worry about her. Hope it works out!