ARGH! Why can't FILs make plans like NORMAL PEOPLE?

ARGH! Why can't FILs make plans like NORMAL PEOPLE?

My family has had plans for today for WEEKS. We all knew where we were going and at what time for Father's Day. We plan our days together like this in advance so that everyone is informed since we're a huge family, so JT and I have known for like two weeks that we were going to my aunt's house for this big dinner tonight. AND JT's family has known what we were doing all this time, but god forbid they tell us what THEY are doing today so that we can plan accordingly to come and see them. So after days and days and days of asking them what they are doing for today, and them not telling us anything, they call us THIS MORNING to tell us that they decided to go to JT's sister's house which is in the COMPLETE OPPOSITE direction of my aunt's house. So now JT is like, well we have to go to my sister's house now. WHY? Why do I have to now cancel my plans that I've had to go see his family that is incapable of making plans like normal people? I feel like if we go over to his sister's, it will only encourage them to be like this in the future. I swear they do this purposely to see if we'll cancel our other plans. They do this ALL the time and JT never stands up to them. They find out where we're going, then plan to be in the opposite direction of where we're going. Then they give him a hard time about not being with them the whole day. ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot stand them!

Re: ARGH! Why can't FILs make plans like NORMAL PEOPLE?

You're right. They know you want to spend time with your family. You shouldn't have to put off spending time with your family. Once you're married, are they going to want you to be with them? I'm jewish, we get two days for the holidays. One day we could be with my family and the other day with FI family. Hope things get better.

Re: ARGH! Why can't FILs make plans like NORMAL PEOPLE?

I feel your pain. My father used to be like this. I would wait and wait to make plans with DH's family because I wanted to see my father too and I told him what we wanted to do and so he would purposely schedule what he wanted to do at the same time. A few times DH and I went our seperate ways with our fathers which I hated doing. But this year, we got smart. DH and I made plans for both our fathers and if they come they come. Well, we booked a reservation and we are ALL, both fathers and all their children going out to dinner today. We didn't give either father a chance to make their own plans!! I don't think you guys should change your plans because they waited to the last minute. I know easier said than done, but your FH needs to understand that these plans were made well over two weeks ago and you can't just back out at the last minute on people.. Maybe you could go to his familiy for dessert. Good Luck no matter what and try and enjoy your day!!

Re: ARGH! Why can't FILs make plans like NORMAL PEOPLE?

I feel your pain.

Re: ARGH! Why can't FILs make plans like NORMAL PEOPLE?

feel the same way about fil's. every year since i'm born we have gone to my aunt & uncles house on fathers day. rather then create drama, we go there around 3, eat dinner, stay for a few hours and then come back to his house to see everyone. and for some reason, whenever there is an event going on in my family, the same day there is always one going on in his. why is that????