Arguing

FutureMissG Posted: Jan 30, 2010 09:33 PM

Arguing

Question Ladies....... I've gotten into a couple arguments lately with the FH.... It may be for stupid reasons or for valid reasons, but it's still an argument.. Do you guys ever feel like your having doubts or hesitations??

JLWSJC Posted: Jan 30, 2010 09:40 PM

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He frustrates me and we argue, and sometimes the arguments are concentrated into a short period of time, but I don't seriously question if I should marry him or not

I trust him
I love him
The arguments are not about fundamental issues or our relationship, you know? ABout differences in lifestyle or where he's been or who he's hanging out with or anything like that... then I'd be worried at this point in time.

Good luck though, I know how unsettling it is to be arguing a lot.

FutureMissG Posted: Jan 30, 2010 09:41 PM

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Thank you.. I needed that

harts2976 Posted: Jan 30, 2010 09:44 PM

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I have never felt I have been having doubts or hesitations. I have lived with FH for over a year and he has been my rock threw the hardest days when my sisters passed away. We fight over some things b/c i was raised so differently. I come from a huge loving family who excepts everyone and everything. If your dating one of us you are one of us! He comes from a more reserved jewish family. They are no unaccepting of me b/c I am catholic. They love me. They are just more quiet and a lot smaller of a family. I have though realized us fighting a little bit more over money lately. I worked on my day off this weekend and he was going to go into city to drink tomorrow. LUCKILY he realize that wasnt fair and isnt going.

I think it is a stressful time for every couple.If you are having mean hearted fights then take some time to look at what you want. IF its small petty arguements over money,colorsand what not. Brush it off before bed and dont worry about it. ONly you know how you feel

FutureMissG Posted: Jan 30, 2010 09:51 PM

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Thanks Harts.. That means a lot. I know what you mean about being from 2 totally different families..

dianeb888 Posted: Jan 30, 2010 09:51 PM

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I think its normal to have doubts, as long as the good time out weigh the bad you will be fine.

harts2976 Posted: Jan 30, 2010 09:55 PM

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Posted by FutureMissG

Thanks Harts.. That means a lot. I know what you mean about being from 2 totally different families..

One thing people say you are marrying him and his family.... SORRY> but i am marrying him and his family can tag along for the ride. We both love our families and he is super close with mine and we try to invole his in everything (they are in fla). most important thing to realize ( we just realized it) is that when you guys married, yes you are still part of your families, but you are also starting something new!

FutureMissG Posted: Jan 30, 2010 09:59 PM

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yes Harts!! yes!.. lol.. I totally agree!

FutureMissG Posted: Jan 30, 2010 10:02 PM

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and Harts, we've been also having financial trouble.. trying to pay for this wedding and all the expensive necessities... I'm still in school and struggling with a bullsh*t part time job... And I also feel that him and I are left to pay for the whole wedding becuz everyone else claims to be broke :-/

harts2976 Posted: Jan 30, 2010 10:05 PM

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You can call me Shannon--- my last name is Hart hehehe..

I know what you mean.. FH is a chef waiting for his big promotion. I left a pretty comfy job in retail as a manager to take an office job to finish school so I sit home on weekends and have wine instead of the bar. You will work everything out. We decided we will do what we can. There is enough time to get what we want. Dont worry. No matter what on your wedding day you will be marrying your man and nothing will change that!!!!

FutureMissG Posted: Jan 30, 2010 10:09 PM

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Thanks Shannon.. it's nice to speak too someone at times.

harts2976 Posted: Jan 30, 2010 10:15 PM

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you have FM!

meya1084 Posted: Jan 30, 2010 10:49 PM

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FH and I have been having more arguments lately too! At times I get frustrated and think 'maybe we shouldn't be doing this' but after I step back and cool down I realize its just the extra stress thats making me think that

FutureMissG Posted: Jan 30, 2010 10:53 PM

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Awwww..... Yea I know the feeling! Trust me girl

meya1084 Posted: Jan 30, 2010 11:11 PM

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Its funny we just has an argument before I read your post lol

chelley720 Posted: Jan 31, 2010 09:46 AM

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FH and I have been arguing more now that were planning the wedding I have been so stressed with working to save up for the wedding. He has an ok job but its still almost min wage and FH wants this big wedding and got me all into it now so I feel like we have to save so much more. I use to have doubts before we got engaged but I havent had any since Im sure I will its totally normal to have them I think. Its just when you stress you start thinking crazy thoughts but after a while you come to your senses and doubt over..