Article in NYT about Parents & Ugly Kids!

Kate07 Posted: May 03, 2005 09:34 PM

Article in NYT about Parents & Ugly Kids!

I can't believe some of the things I read sometimes!!!!

Ugly Children May Get Parental Short Shrift

FireIslandLove Posted: May 03, 2005 09:38 PM

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Aw that is so sad!

jantany26 Posted: May 03, 2005 09:41 PM

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that makes me so mad.
you love your kids unconditionally no matter what.

Danielle Posted: May 03, 2005 09:45 PM

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That is so mean!!!

and this picture is so mean too!!

eogara Posted: May 03, 2005 09:59 PM

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I don't think it's so surprising though. Better looking people generally are treated better than those who are not as good looking. Why would parents be different? We're all humans.

Butterflybride Posted: May 03, 2005 10:00 PM

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That's terrible

bedda26 Posted: May 04, 2005 09:56 AM

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I'm not a mother yet but doesn't every mother think their child is beautiful. I mean that should be the attitude no? It's so mean for a parent to think their child is ugly.

nov04LIbride Posted: May 04, 2005 10:00 AM

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Posted by eogara

I don't think it's so surprising though. Better looking people generally are treated better than those who are not as good looking. Why would parents be different? We're all humans.

I agree. I don't think it is a conscious thing, but it certainly happens. Wouldn't any parent love having an adorable child that strangers comment on how beautiful it is, rather than one that they just say, 'Oh wow, that's a baby.'

nov04LIbride Posted: May 04, 2005 10:02 AM

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Posted by bedda26

I'm not a mother yet but doesn't every mother think their child is beautiful. I mean that should be the attitude no? It's so mean for a parent to think their child is ugly.

But the whole reasoning is that this is not a conscious thing--it's not like 'oh, Susie is so cute and buck tooth Sally is fugly so Susie gets a lollipop...' It's just subconsciously being more protective or loving of one. I don't have kids, but I would imagine that even though I would love them unconditionally I would know whether they are beautiful by society's standards...

xjulietx Posted: May 04, 2005 10:03 AM

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I wonder if the parents doing this realize it. Do the parents think their children are ugly or is it that they are just not super attractive?

xjulietx Posted: May 04, 2005 10:05 AM

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Posted by nov04LIbride

Posted by eogara

I don't think it's so surprising though. Better looking people generally are treated better than those who are not as good looking. Why would parents be different? We're all humans.

I agree. I don't think it is a conscious thing, but it certainly happens. Wouldn't any parent love having an adorable child that strangers comment on how beautiful it is, rather than one that they just say, 'Oh wow, that's a baby.'

Interesting point which makes me wonder if the reason why the attractive children are taken care of better and are payed more attention by their parents is because strangers are giving them attention too.

If people fuss over your baby, you will be more aware of your baby than normal (even if you are an aware parent)

Janice Posted: May 04, 2005 10:05 AM

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Posted by xjulietx

I wonder if the parents doing this realize it. Do the parents think their children are ugly or is it that they are just not super attractive?

I always wonder the same. A family member was so upset once because she could not get the money together for a modeling agent for the baby, and I was like what? So I tried saying stuff like a real agent would not charge you and things like that, but she still was not catching on.

nov04LIbride Posted: May 04, 2005 10:06 AM

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Posted by xjulietx

I wonder if the parents doing this realize it. Do the parents think their children are ugly or is it that they are just not super attractive?

I think you would have to know...I have a cousin who just was not a good looking girl...Buck teeth, crooked nose, bad skin, the works. But her parents got her plastic surgery, braces, and the best dermatologist in her state, and she was prom queen! Totally gorgeous now. But if they hadn't acknowedged that hey, there were aspects of her appearance that could use changing, I think her life would not be so happy.

LADYL Posted: May 04, 2005 10:07 AM

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No matter how 'ugly' other people think your kids are they are beautiful to the parents. I was watching a show on TLC about kids with rare deformities and they showed one parent who decided to have their 4 year old child go through a facial reconstructive surgery in order to spare her son having to go through years of humiliation just because of the way he looked.

nov04LIbride Posted: May 04, 2005 10:10 AM

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Posted by LADYL

No matter how 'ugly' other people think your kids are they are beautiful to the parents.

I think I would love who they are--the whole package--but know whether or not they are conventionally beautiful.

LADYL Posted: May 04, 2005 10:13 AM

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Posted by nov04LIbride

Posted by LADYL

No matter how 'ugly' other people think your kids are they are beautiful to the parents.

I think I would love who they are--the whole package--but know whether or not they are conventionally beautiful.

That is exactly my point.

The parent who decided to have surgery on the child was so upset after it happened because after it was all done, she said her son was beautiful to her just the way he was. She was very emotionally distraught.