ask couple to be in our bp together or separately?
Sugar Magnolia
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ask couple to be in our bp together or separately?
FH has been close friends with him 20+ years so it's a given that he is in the bp. I've known her almost my whole life but have only become friends with her in the last 5 years. I don't think she expects that I will ask her, we're not super tight, but it would mean a lot to me if she was in it and it wouldn't feel right without her. They are our best couple friend.
We are planning on taking them out for dinner as a thank you for something they did for us. Do you think it would be nice to ask them together at dinner or should fh and I do it separately? I don't want to make it any less special for either of them. Just wondering what others think...
thank you.
galgirl
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I think asking together would be sweet
Im a Pepper
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Personally, I think I'd ask them separately. Gives it some time to sink in and their decision (while I'm sure they'll both say yes no matter what!) is not based on the participation of the other one.
Then again, it might be a nice gesture to ask them both at the same time.
Oi, I'm no help
MyFairLaLa
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I think that would be really sweet if you ask them together.
Wifeynella
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I'd ask them together. We have 2 couples and we asked them together
MyLobster
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Well, it would be nice to ask them together however, she may think she's being asked bc her boyfriend is obviously giong to be in the BP. If you ask her seperately, it may seem like you really want her in the party regardless of her boyfriend.
Just a thought!
Sugar Magnolia
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^^yup, that is exactly why i asked this question. I don't want it to seem like I'm asking her because of him. My gut tells me that she would know that I'm asking her because she is an important person in my life - we vacation together, go over each other's homes for tv shows, spend every weekend together in the winter, she has mentioned that she can't wait to go dress shopping with me, i miss her when i don't hang out with her for a week.
what to do, what to do...
thanks for your replies!
dedecakes
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If someone asked me and my FH to be in their wedding party together, I wouldn't think that it was out of obligation. If they didnt want to include me, the groom could easily just ask my FH alone w/o me there. I think it's sweet. We are actually going to ask my brother and my FSIL to be in our wedding together. Just explain to her why you chose her. Say something like, 'I know that you may seem surprised that I am asking you to be in our wedding b/c we havent known each other that long and we arent really close, but you are really special to me, etc. etc.' or you could just leave it w/o any explanation and just express how excited you are that she will be in your wedding party (after she accepts, of course).
galgirl
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Posted by Sugar Magnolia
^^yup, that is exactly why i asked this question. I don't want it to seem like I'm asking her because of him. My gut tells me that she would know that I'm asking her because she is an important person in my life - we vacation together, go over each other's homes for tv shows, spend every weekend together in the winter, she has mentioned that she can't wait to go dress shopping with me, i miss her when i don't hang out with her for a week.
what to do, what to do...
thanks for your replies!
That is so sweet, you should tell her that exactly!
