My FH and I have been engaged for a month and a half and have set the date and the place and are actively planning. My family has not said anything about giving any money towards the wedding. I am not expecting a fully paid wedding but I thought an offer of some assistance would have come. I'm not sure how to address the issue and was wondering if anyone else had to deal with a similar situation?
beautyq115
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My FI and I assumed that we would be paying for the bulk ourselves.
My mom is a single mother and I have no relationship was my Father so I wasn't expecting really anything from my Mom.
After we got engaged I just casually asked if she would be able to help my FI and I with the wedding and she said that she had been saving a little bit each month and would have enough to pay for our reception. I was SHOCKED!
My FI's parents have yet to say how much they would be able to help us.
Just ask your family...say that you and your FI need to start putting a budget together and you need to know if anyone is going to be able to help.
Hope this helps
cjb88
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we are assumming that we are paying for everything ourselves and if either side wants to help, im sure they will offer when they feel ready.
My friends parents came right out and said we are giving you this amount of money toward your wedding.
But so far with us, as we have encountered different vendors, Fi's parents have said... listen, we want to take care of this for you...or we'll pay for the upgrade for this since we know you really want it.
coxmandi
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We also went in with the idea that we would pay for the wedding. My parents have said they have a certain amount, and anything extra is ours. We haven't talked to FH's family about costs yet....but that should be coming soon.
sarahthegreat
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this is what we did - we asked both sets of parents for the same amount of $$ - ie, 1k or $1500, something they could both come up with in a year and a half from now.
hmpena
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We also have just assumed that we are paying for the whole thing ourselves. His parents haven't offered to pay for anything. And the only thing my father has suggested he would pay for is the church (only when I suggested we would get married at the catering hall!). I am not going to ask either parents for anything. If they volunteer, great. Otherwise, it's my wedding and I will do whatever pleases me!
