So FH and I are seriously discussing canceling the large wedding and doing a VERY small wedding with immediate family only. We're tossing around the idea of a destination wedding or just a small backyard wedding. We're waiting till May of 2009 to make our final decision, but with the way the economy is going, it's not looking good. Luckily the RH will give us a full refund if need be. It's just hard to see my father's business taking a hit due to the economic downturn and I would just feel guilty putting my hand out for their portion of the wedding. Not to mention the fact that things are probably going to be tight for us since they are talking about cutting our hours at work. I'm at a loss right now. Really am. Was so happy when we decided to go with a larger wedding at a place that we both fell in love with and now it doesn't look like it's going to happen. We've discussed waiting till 2011 but I'm so done with waiting and I'm sure my vendors will up the cost and we'll be back at square one. Not to mention the fact that some of my dear family members are not in the best of health and I want to make sure they are there for the wedding (morbid as it sounds).
Am I over-reacting? Anyone else having issues like this? Should I jut keep plugging along as if the wedding is a go and do my best to make it happen? Just hard to spend money on one day when there is so much else going on.
T E R I
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Posted by amandah75
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Big hugs for you Amanda
And thank you, me and FH are going to be sitting down this weekend to discuss everything for the wedding to see what's going to happen. The only thing that stinks is we have been paying deposits to the RH and we have everything booked with deposits down.
Luckily we've only booked the photog and we're hoping to work something out with her. maybe do a photo shoot in our wedding duds or something like that. if you are going to change dates that may not be an issue or even if you change the venue i'm sure you can get your vendors to follow you.
Good luck and keep us updated.
I will keep everyone posted
I'm hoping not to have to push the date back, considering we already have our favors and some things with the date on it. I'm hoping maybe we can figure something out.
JenBill61210
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Big hugs for you Amanda
And thank you, me and FH are going to be sitting down this weekend to discuss everything for the wedding to see what's going to happen. The only thing that stinks is we have been paying deposits to the RH and we have everything booked with deposits down.
Luckily we've only booked the photog and we're hoping to work something out with her. maybe do a photo shoot in our wedding duds or something like that. if you are going to change dates that may not be an issue or even if you change the venue i'm sure you can get your vendors to follow you.
Good luck and keep us updated.
I will keep everyone posted
I'm hoping not to have to push the date back, considering we already have our favors and some things with the date on it. I'm hoping maybe we can figure something out.
good luck Teri, i am sure your vendors will be flexible should you decide to move it- as far as the favors and other things, dont stress it, you have to do what is right for the both of you, keep us posted!!!
mosh424
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Amanda, you have to do what is best for you and FH. In the end you will make the right decision. If you push it back to 2011 then book ASAP so you get all the current rates for 2008. We are all here to help you and listen to you!!
Goldie39
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so many people took the words directly from my mouth, but basically i want to reaffirm that i think you're not crazy and I can definitely understand your reasoning. No matter the size of the function, I know you and Matt will have a beautiful wedding because you are both two very beautiful people.
All the stress takes it's toll on your health and it's not worth it since this is supposed to be the happiest part of your life. I think it's great that you're waiting it out to come to a full decision. Either way, I'm always here if u need to talk.
Reymiliz
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Posted by soontoobemrsk
Amanda. FH and I decided to do a small wedding partially for economic reasons and partially because we feel it is a more intimate affair. Having a small weddng doesnt mean that it has to be a bbq. It can still be formal and beautiful, just smaller. But if you have your heart set on the big wedding, I would push it back to 2011 but book now so you get the current rates. If you need to talk, as always, feel free to fm me. [/QUOTE
ME TOO ...A BIG WEDDING WOULD BE JUST TOO MUCH MONEY ... SO WE ARE DOING A DW INSTEAD
