I know I should be grateful that I'm even having one, because things are tight with my parents, and I am, but I'm just so upset. Tonight my father told me when it was.
Long story short, we were talking about vacations and how I really can't take summer vacations due to the nature of my job (catalog season), and how its a small company and everyone else is gone, and I said if anything maybe I can take some time in the last week of August. So he says, 'You can't do that, your party is August 9th, you better make sure you take off!'
Once I realized that he was NOT talking about the wedding, I was so upset. My mother started WAILING on him, cursing, hitting, screaming. It was just horrible. He didn't mean to do it, he just panicked, but really, it's a Sunday, and I work a regular 9-5.
If I seem like I'm overreacting, I'm sorry, I just needed to vent. I wanted a surprise so badly, and my mother knew that, and she was trying so hard to orchestrate something, which is hard because we all live in the same house. She's really upset too. UGH. And the worst part is, they want me to feign surprise and flat out lie at the shower about being surprised, and that's just not in my nature to put on a phony show like that.
MaggieLuvsJoe
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with all the time there is between now and then, see if your mom can switch the date ASAP this way you can still be surprised.
ETA: forgot to mention, im sorry your dad ruined the surprise
sofreakingexcited
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aw i'm really sorry to hear that, but I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time (and it's my wedding day so i'm sure it will be a great day )
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i agree with maggie ... but if she cant switch it i understand i would be upset too ... although i know that two to three months before my wedding any where i go i will be expecting to walk into my shower (because we all know its coming) soooo i feel like you would end up knowing when it was coming anyway ... BUT i totally undertand why you are upset and im sorry.
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Im really, really sorry! I want a big surprise too. Lets hope the family can change the date. Im sure your mom will since shes knows you want a surprise. Theres plenty of time to plan it! Dont be upset!
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Maybe now that you know the date they'll change it. Sounds like your mom was really upset about it.
PrincyJo
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Ahhh Men I told my mom and sister not to tell FH until right before. He would somehow screw it up. It'll work out, I'm sure. Maybe it's all a big plan to throw u off
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I'm sorry, but it will still be an exciting and fun day. The good news is you can make sure you look your best and not have to worry about being in jeans and looking crappy on the day of.
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Aww I'm sorry your ad ruined the surprise. Maybe your mom can switch teh date so you'll be surprised
GT143EA
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Awwww I'm sorry! That stinks but you will still have a great shower. Hey you never know, they might switch the date and then you'll really be suprised!
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I'm sorry that your surprise was ruined. However, like everyone else said, it's still really early so maybe your mom can switch the date and it will be a surprise.
Even if not, you will STILL have an amazing time and get amazing gifts and have a fun day of all the attention on you! I don't think any of my friends who have gotten married have ever been truly surprised about their showers, if that helps.
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Perhaps, she will surprise you again and change the date. I am sure no one has received invitations yet. Or it can all be a set-up.
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Look at the bright side. You were suprised...just surprised a little earlier than August 9th! lol, sorry sweetie!! You can't trust men!! They're silly like that!!
FutureMrsM
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awww, I'm sorry! You're mom still has time, maybe she can switch the date....
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Posted by MLAngelo
I'm sorry, but it will still be an exciting and fun day. The good news is you can make sure you look your best and not have to worry about being in jeans and looking crappy on the day of.
This is what I was going to say...at least youll be prepared. Enjoy it, whenever it is!
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awww im so sorry it got ruined for u..maybe they can switch the date,or if not work up an oscar surprise...its not a way to throw u off right?u should tell ur dad to get u the biggest thing off the registry
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maybe your dad was trying to throw you off???? is he a good actor??
MrsDtoBe09
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Oh no! Just try to forget about it. Maybe next year you'll be so busy you really won't remember!
Ann 52409
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Dont worry about it because your mom can either switch the date or maybe that was all an act to throw you off and you really dont know the date yet.
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Thanks girls...
They might change the date now. My mom doesnt want to because she doesn't want to go through the hassle, but my dad feels pretty guilty so he said he was going to change it. I don't think it was a ploy, because my dad is a horrible liar, and we all know his ticks. It's not the end of the world...I'm hoping I forget as the time gets closer lol. It was just really annoying, after having a really bad day, that was just the icing on the cake.
