This is a strange story.. Its all still 'sinking in'.
I'll try to make it brief.
My brother is getting married this summer. We have a close friend of the family who is going to become a Priest. His ceremony (sorry dont know the name) to officially become a priest is in the Spring. He has been on and off with the schooling for a good 10-15 yrs. Even had a 'time off' period where he worked elsewhere, totally unrelated to the church.
Anyway, we havent grown up together really, but our moms know eachother very well, they grew up in the same town in Italy, both live in the same neighborhood here, you know the 'old paesan' situation. Where you respect eachother like family, just based on your connections to your roots. We've seen eachother on major occasions throughout our lives, but respect eachother like family.
Well my brother, out of respect, decided it would be an honor to ask him to marry them this summer. Both his family and my parents were touched by this gesture, and my brother and FSIL have been through precana and through talks with him to get things moving....
Well things wont be moving so far ahead anymore. Very recently, they had an 'interview' at his home, the two of them and him. The home that we visited them many a time as children...
First off, my brother thought it was really awkward, that he asked if they minded that he remove his white collar...almost as if to say 'this interview will be 'off the record'....'
Then to go on and proceed in the manner that he proceeded. He asked them completely
uncalled for graphic, private, intimate, rude, inappropriate questions about their relations, each question extremely sexual in nature, and not only that, but questions, 'advice' and stories he told that completely floored them. They did not divulage ANY information. My FSIL was traumatized and embarassed beyond belief. He even told her he would give her more 'information' on 'something' at her interview... My brother is disgusted, in a state of shock, angry and they are at a crossroads about what action to take next....
Is this story unbelievable???
I know VERY little about details, and I wouldnt post them anyway, but my brother didnt tell me much, because my older brothers grew up with this respect for their 'little sisters' where theyve NEVER spoken of certain things with us, so it was hard to just break that when he told me a few of the details on the phone. He tried to make it 'clean' but Ive heard more after that.....
To top this off, the 'Priest' requested that their next interview be at his church/convent, and that they be 'one on one', so my brother alone, and then my FSIL alone... (needless to say this will NOT happen).... They are telling him that they will not be using him, but they are still absorbing the weight of this situation, and what could become of this person, and what they could be saving by telling someone...
Any advice? Is this outrageous or what???
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and quite sad
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