babies at wedding, can't take it anymore.. help!!
I know there has been a lot of controversy in the past on these boards about people that want kids at their wedding, VS people that don't. I'm not saying kids should or shouldn't be invited, that is a personal choice, so please no one take offense.
So, originally we had said we didn't want young kids at the wedding, really only infants and babies. Like I said this is a personal choice, and for me I really don't want babies at the wedding, as in kids under 5. So, we said no kids.. then ffil decided that he was going to bring his grandson from florida because he had to, he takes care of him. So we included him as the ring bearer, and since he was coming, I invited any kids over 5, and made this clear to all my family members who have babies and children.
Now, fh's stepbrother, from florida, tells ffil that he is going to bring his kids, even though he already rsvp'd without them. No phone call, email, doesn't ask us if this is ok. He has a 3 year old, and a 9 month old. I'm really upset about this for several reasons. First of all, they didn't ask us if this was ok, even though they used to keep in touch with us.. ever since the invitations have gone out, we haven't heard from them. Also, it really makes me look bad to my family members that I asked not to bring their babies because they have made arrangments, including my cousin's mother flying in from Indiana to babysit. Also, the bottom line is that I really don't want a baby at the wedding. So now I am put in a really tough position. I can't force these people to make these babysitting arrangements, I can't provide babysitting services since I have already inconvenienced other people into making plans for their kids, and I know that when my cousin sees this baby at the wedding, she's going to be offended that her baby wasn't invited, she is a troublemaker.
The only thing I can think of doing is emailing them and being semi-honest, as in.. i really need to know what you plan on doing, and I've already told everyone else not to bring babies and it is making me look really bad. I'm not saying you can't, but it is putting me in a touch position. Fh is really upset because he agrees but doesn't want to cause any problems or confrontations. So, I don't know what to do. Any advice?
PS.. I really can't tell you how many annoying things have been happening as we get closer to the wedding. I really feel for all you girls who are going to be given a hard time. I have people rsvping without including guests even though they're bringing guests. I have people asking if their parents can come, their babies can come, if I'm hiring a babysitter, how they're going to get to the ceremony, why they weren't invited with a date (my grandfather).. and to top it all off, my own sister rsvp'ed a big fat NO with no explanation. I can't tell how you stressed out I am, and this was just the icing on the cake.
Any advice would be appreciated, I really am clueless.. thanks![]()
So, originally we had said we didn't want young kids at the wedding, really only infants and babies. Like I said this is a personal choice, and for me I really don't want babies at the wedding, as in kids under 5. So, we said no kids.. then ffil decided that he was going to bring his grandson from florida because he had to, he takes care of him. So we included him as the ring bearer, and since he was coming, I invited any kids over 5, and made this clear to all my family members who have babies and children.
Now, fh's stepbrother, from florida, tells ffil that he is going to bring his kids, even though he already rsvp'd without them. No phone call, email, doesn't ask us if this is ok. He has a 3 year old, and a 9 month old. I'm really upset about this for several reasons. First of all, they didn't ask us if this was ok, even though they used to keep in touch with us.. ever since the invitations have gone out, we haven't heard from them. Also, it really makes me look bad to my family members that I asked not to bring their babies because they have made arrangments, including my cousin's mother flying in from Indiana to babysit. Also, the bottom line is that I really don't want a baby at the wedding. So now I am put in a really tough position. I can't force these people to make these babysitting arrangements, I can't provide babysitting services since I have already inconvenienced other people into making plans for their kids, and I know that when my cousin sees this baby at the wedding, she's going to be offended that her baby wasn't invited, she is a troublemaker.
The only thing I can think of doing is emailing them and being semi-honest, as in.. i really need to know what you plan on doing, and I've already told everyone else not to bring babies and it is making me look really bad. I'm not saying you can't, but it is putting me in a touch position. Fh is really upset because he agrees but doesn't want to cause any problems or confrontations. So, I don't know what to do. Any advice?
PS.. I really can't tell you how many annoying things have been happening as we get closer to the wedding. I really feel for all you girls who are going to be given a hard time. I have people rsvping without including guests even though they're bringing guests. I have people asking if their parents can come, their babies can come, if I'm hiring a babysitter, how they're going to get to the ceremony, why they weren't invited with a date (my grandfather).. and to top it all off, my own sister rsvp'ed a big fat NO with no explanation. I can't tell how you stressed out I am, and this was just the icing on the cake.
Any advice would be appreciated, I really am clueless.. thanks
