Bachelorette party

Help me please!

My BP consists of my sister (23), my two sister-in-laws and a friend. Everyone had asked me what I wanted to do for a bachelorette party. I'm not into clubs and all that so I said I wanted to do a spa weekend or even just day if people couldn't do a whole weekend.

Well, no one took the initiative so I started doing research myself and found a place. I was hurt that no one seemed to be too concerned and they just assumed that I'd take care of it I guess. I've been crazy busy with the wedding in 2 months, grad school coming to an end, as well as teaching in a new school district (My IEPs are due may 6 and they entail a lot which some of you probably know)

My sister called me this weekend and wanted to know the details. I haven't booked anything but I figured out the weekend, and where but nothings finalized. She was like 'i need to know becasue there are other things I'm invited too.' I haven't said anything but I'm beyond pissed. She didn't even attempt to plan anything and now she may not even be there?!?!

Should I cancel the whole thing? I don't even want to go right now!

All the other girls have very busy lives as well and my sister is my MOH.

why are you planning your bachelorette party? shouldnt your bms and moh be doing this?

i dont think you should cancel... you should have something with your girls

dont cancel. You deserve the spa treatment. If your girls wont go then maybe you can go with a close family member ( your mother or FMIL?)

I really feel that it is wrong of your bp to leave it to you to plan your bachelorette party!
I don't think you should cancel your plans. I think you need to talk to your sister and the other girls and tell them what your are planning.
I think in the end they will come through.
Good luck!

Oh well, I tried talking to them but no one was too recpetive. I'm not the confrontational type so I also spoke with my mom. She said she didn't want to tell me this but that no one helped her at all with the shower either. She asked for help but nothing came through really. So, I am cancelling becasue I can't plan it all right now. My FH said he'd plan something for the 2 of us instead. I'm so hurt and can't believe that people who are my firends and sister don't seem to care much.

Thanks girls for the sympathy!

I am so sorry that you feel bad. They definitely should be helping you plan, but since they are not u should do it anyway and whoever wants to come can come. It is hard not to get upset but for some strange reason a lot of people just dont come through for you at the right time. Some people can just be a little busy or they dont have the insight to see how important it would be to you if they would help you plan and make you feel special. Well dont get bummed out on account of other people. You are special --- that is why you are the one getting married!!

Your wedding will be amazing and you will look beautiful and just keep that in mind when you feel sad.