Bachelorette Party Blues...

Ok... so, I'm involved (somewhat) in my bachelorette party plans... I have an absolutely fantastic friend that is also my BM that wants to make the party awesome - one night in Manhattan around the city on a limobus with drinks, goodies, etc.- but my other bridesmaids (including my MOHs) are telling me that they are not going to come because they don't have the money - that she's being too lavish for a bachelorette party - mind you it'll cost each person 120 for the night (not inc. drinking in the bars/clubs)...

The worst part - each one tells me about the wonderful vaca's they've been taking over the last year... a week in Daytona, a week in South Beach, a week-long cruise, etc. etc. etc.

I've been engaged for a year now, am I wrong to think that they have been selfish not to put money aside for things like this...??? Isn't that part of taking on the role of BM or MOH?

I asked my BMs to hold the bridal shower at my mom's house (not at a restaurant or a hall - to save money)... I am paying for half of their make-up to get done, for the additional costs for maternity dresses and extra lengths, for the shawls they'll be wearing at my wedding, and for some I've fronted half of the cost of their dresses... not to mention the money that was dished out by me for their weddings...

Am I wrong for being upset that my 'friends' aren't stepping up to the plate for the one night that I get to celebrate my 'single life'? Or am I just complaining too much?

Sorry I had to vent - and to find out what the H@LL to do with them...

Oh let me elaborate a second - out of the EIGHT bms only THREE are willing to come... NONE OF THEM ARE MY MOHs!

Awwww. That stinks. I'm having 2 BParties for that reason. When I was planning, the girls (6, with 1 underage) were all excited to plan a mini-vacation. After I spent time planning, I'm only having 2 come to a trip to Florida (only airfare/food as an expense: I have access to condo). The rest are: pregnant (not her fault, I know), too broke, and working (holiday weekend)...you get the picture.

So....do like me & have a mini-one. I'm having people over my place for some appetizers & a club. Will be about $30 for THEM. I'm having other friends come who are not in the BP.

Good luck.

I would be mad. your not wrong for being upset. it's one night, $120 for one night is not a lot. tell them to save!!!! when I asked all my girls I told them they would need to get hair done, makeup, and I will pay for their nails to be done. maybe even their makeup if I get a good deal. that doesn't even include their dresses, or shoes. you only get married once, and only have most of these parties once! it's not like you told them your going to Vegas and they better come up with like $500.

then they aren't even paying a lot for the bridal shower? I would be really mad. I told my girls if they had to save, to throw my bridal shower at a home. tell them to stop taking trips, and to start saving. it's def not asking much.