Bachelorette Party Help (Bridesmaid issue) UPDATE

Ok here is the problem. When I first got engaged, I was told by cousin ( a bridesmaid) that she wanted to plan my bachelorette party. I said ok. However, last week I found out the date that my party is going to be so I can compile a list of guests. I sent out a prelim email to my guests including a couple bridesmaids that I weren't sure knew about the date. I found out from another one of my bridesmaids today that until I sent out that email, she wasn't aware of the date so that means the person in charge didn't consult with the rest of the bridesmaids before selecting a date. I was steamed when I found this out and everyone is trying to keep this party a secret from me. I called my cousin and asked her why my other bridesmaid didn't know about the date and she said it just slipped her mind and that she was sorry. Fine.

I am now thinking that in order to keep the sanity and to make sure that my party is not over the top or something outrageous, I'll have to get involved. What do you think? Should I know what's going on with this party or just leave it to the bridesmaids...who are all communicating now by the way. I'm just concerned that with half my bridal party being grad school students, no one can devote as much time and since I;m working, it would be better if I devote more time to it.

Sorry this is so long. What do you think?


UPDATE!! My invitations for my bachelorette party are out and I can't wait...I decided to let my girls do their thing and leave the party up to them. I can't wait for my party!!

I think you should leave it up to them.
They'll get their act together and come through - they're all talking now.

Don't worry and enjoy your day!