Bachelorette Party RANT!!!

FutureMrsRice Posted: Jul 17, 2007 04:49 PM

Bachelorette Party RANT!!!

The story is pretty short and simple, but I am really pissed off!!

My bridesmaid, Megan, volunteered to do my bachelorette party. However, a few weeks ago she got engaged and her wedding is 8 months after mine. Jenny, another bridesmaid, and I are at lunch yetserday and she drops that Megan doesn't want to plan the bachelorette party anymore and that Jenny is now doing it. Why, you ask? Because Megan is too busy PLANNING HER OWN WEDDING!!!

Megan never said a word to me about it. Can you say passive aggressive?? How rude to back out of something you volunteered to do and then not tell the person?

I feel like I picked my bridesmaids for a reason and if she can't handle planning a girls night out, how can I count on her to pick up the flowers or drop off the checks?

It will be great and Jenny will plan something FABULOUS but I am just hurt that:

a) She didn't say anything to me about it
b) she went ahead and delegated someone else to do it without talking to me first
c) that she is so 'busy' she can't plan the easiest thing in the wedding

I AM PISSED.

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Jul 17, 2007 04:52 PM

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wow - beyond passive-aggressive and this little scenario just screams drama queen to me. she is probably going to be the biggest PITA in your whole BP and will constantly, and I mean, constantly, compare everything your doing with what she's doing...

TattooAnkh Posted: Jul 17, 2007 04:55 PM

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I definitely agree that she should have at least spoken about it with you first. It sounds like more than anything, that's what you're upset about. I bet that if she'd taken the time to sit with you and explain herself, things would be a lot better. Maybe you should give her a call? She was probably just afraid of how upset you would be with her.

However, I gotta diasgree about planning a bachelorette party being the easiest thing to plan in a wedding. From my experience, it's a lot of work! Not that that excuses her not talking to you (I totally agree with you on that one!), but I do understand her feeling like she might not be the best person to plan that anymore.

I hope things work out between you guys!

megzzie Posted: Jul 17, 2007 04:56 PM

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She definitely should have spoken to you about it first before she handed the work down to another BM.

Toucan311 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 04:59 PM

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Maybe she was planning on telling you but hasnt yet b/c she was afraid you'd be upset with her and Jenny dropped the ball by telling you first!

bella1028 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 05:19 PM

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I'm sorry that would piss me off too...

bemyyoko Posted: Jul 17, 2007 05:23 PM

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I'm gonna be honest here. I'd be pissed off too. I'm actually keeping my fingers crossed because I think my MOH is going to be engaged before my wedding and I'm a little worried that something similar will happen.
But, I also know how much time and effort goes into planning a wedding. And i know that at this moment it wouldnt be that easy for me to be planning both my wedding and someone else's bachelorette party.

If I were her, I'd probobly ask someone else to either do it, or help me do it because I'd want the party to be awesome for you, and not done half assed b/c i was too busy.

don't think of it as an insult, think of it more like, she wants to make sure it's amazing.

MikeandJess Posted: Jul 17, 2007 05:24 PM

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wow that is pretty messed up. Why don't you offer to plan hers and then back out -- say you're too busy getting married.

Snowflake08 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 05:27 PM

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Posted by MikeandJess

wow that is pretty messed up. Why don't you offer to plan hers and then back out -- say you're too busy getting married.

LOL JESS!!!!

yelley77 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 05:37 PM

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That really s*cks!!! She could have at least been honest with you... However, look at it as a blessing in disguise; if she would have continued panning it, she would have half-a**ed it and it wouldn't have been what you deserve... let her go about planning her wedding and let someone else plan your party!

Espo22 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 05:46 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

Maybe she was planning on telling you but hasnt yet b/c she was afraid you'd be upset with her and Jenny dropped the ball by telling you first!

very true, maybe she was thinking of an easy way to break it to you.

One thing i do have to disagree with is that you picked them for a reason and it sounds more like duties are the reason, its about having those close friends by your side, not them running errands for you. I know you probably didn't mean it in a bad way.

Sorry you had to find out this way

Toucan311 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 06:07 PM

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Honestly, I didnt even realize that bridesmaids were supposed to take care of all these things! I figured I'd be like 'hey, lets go out this weekend here' etc.

Snowflake08 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 06:10 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

Honestly, I didnt even realize that bridesmaids were supposed to take care of all these things! I figured I'd be like 'hey, lets go out this weekend here' etc.

yeah, thats more my mentality but im older and a big bachelorette party is just not my thing

Kimbalina Posted: Jul 17, 2007 06:11 PM

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Posted by MikeandJess

wow that is pretty messed up. Why don't you offer to plan hers and then back out -- say you're too busy getting married.

LOVE IT!!!

BbyJenny Posted: Jul 17, 2007 06:44 PM

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That is totally passive aggressive and you have a right to be pissed. Not for nothing, but we are all working hard planning our weddings, but how much work is it to plan a bachelorette party for a close friend. Between billing 2000+ hours at work and planning the wedding I feel like I have two jobs, but I had plenty of time to plan not only my sister's shower, but also my FH's surprise 30th b-day party. Sounds like some kind of sour grapes to me...

BbyJenny Posted: Jul 17, 2007 06:45 PM

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Posted by yelley77

That really s*cks!!! She could have at least been honest with you... However, look at it as a blessing in disguise; if she would have continued panning it, she would have half-a**ed it and it wouldn't have been what you deserve... let her go about planning her wedding and let someone else plan your party!

Totally agree with this!

Collweenie21 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 07:04 PM

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Posted by BbyJenny

Posted by yelley77

That really s*cks!!! She could have at least been honest with you... However, look at it as a blessing in disguise; if she would have continued panning it, she would have half-a**ed it and it wouldn't have been what you deserve... let her go about planning her wedding and let someone else plan your party!

Totally agree with this!

Yup this is so true! Although I would be really freakin pissed anyways!!!