BAT /BAR MITZVAH

grkbarbie Posted: May 05, 2009 03:19 PM

BAT /BAR MITZVAH

heyy

my coworker is invited to one of those and she wants to knwo what an appropriate gift would be. she hasnt been to one in years and doesnt know what the average gift is per person?

its at crest hollow. and its family member .. but that family is cheap. lol

thanks in advance.. she thanks u,too!

AdriandSteve Posted: May 05, 2009 03:21 PM

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multiples of 18. so probably..... 72 sounds good.

Juhgail Posted: May 05, 2009 04:08 PM

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either multipe of 18, or give $118 a person.

springsandra Posted: May 05, 2009 04:24 PM

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I don't do the multiples of 18 thing. When I was young, I thought it was cute to do, but I'm over it lol.

I'm going to a bat mitzvah on Saturday for my dad's cousin's daughter. It's at the Sands in Lido on Saturday at noon. I'm planning to give $150 total for me and FH. For a relative, I think that's plenty, if not too much. If I were going alone, I'd probably give $100.

Then again, the parents are coming to our wedding this summer, so I also feel like we're going to get it back soon. I hope that's not wrong...

ELluvsMB Posted: May 05, 2009 04:45 PM

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we went to a distant family members a few months back and gave $200 for a couple.

debzy Posted: May 05, 2009 05:01 PM

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I'd give a minimum of $100 per person. If a couple is invited, $200 would be an appropriate gift.

regy_k Posted: May 05, 2009 05:05 PM

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Posted by debzy

I'd give a minimum of $100 per person. If a couple is invited, $200 would be an appropriate gift.

that's about right.
multiples of 18 are only done by very religious. secular jews, like myself, give regular going rate pp envelopes

HTH

grkbarbie Posted: May 05, 2009 11:51 PM

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ty. i told her to cover her plate.. but she wanted to knwo wat others do cuz its bat mitzvah, not a weddiing..

thanks for ur help lol

grrulz Posted: May 05, 2009 11:55 PM

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i really think that every time you are invited to a catering hall you should cover your plate last weekend i was invited to a first communion at a catering hall and between me and fh we gave 125 it was saturday bruchn so we assumed the plate was no more than 50 pp so we gave 125 just in case

Julia0927 Posted: May 06, 2009 01:19 AM

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Well it all depends on the food. If its kosher its costs more, which means plate costs more. When I went to friends wedding a year ago in crest hollow, gave $150 for 1 person.