Ok, so I know I've vented about the bestman before, but this time, I am just so upset. So FH's bestman has been our good friend for a few years now. Great guy, but has had some troubles in his personal life for a while now. We've been very supportive and blah blah blah. We've done everything in our power to be there for him, even though we live 200 miles away for the time being. So anyway, he decided he hates the two of us now, and wants nothing to do with us ever again. Out of no where! So now FH is very upset because this was his only close male friend. All of his other male friends are more like fair-weather friends, only there when it's convenient for them. So now he keeps saying he's going to be standing there all on his own with no bestman. We've tried talking to our other friend and he just wants nothing to do with us, and just tells us he hates us I hate boys, they're so stupid sometimes. I hate seeing FH so sad. Maybe we can come up with a reality show where America picks his bestman! Ok, sorry for the vent. I'm just sad for FH.
shelzyp
Posted:
Member since
Re: Bestman Vent-Again!
You don't need him then, I know that this is really upsetting, but this type of person is toxic. What about his dad or do you have a brother that can be his best man. Anyone would be better than this individual.
shelzyp
Posted:
Member since
Re: Bestman Vent-Again!
Also - you don't have to be sorry for your vent, if your upset about something, then vent!!!!
Hope everything works out!
prncssrachel
Posted:
Member since
Re: Bestman Vent-Again!
Thanks! Yeah, FH is not very bondy with the males in his life. They are pretty much a let down. He had a few good male friends growing up, but in the last few years, their lives have lead them in other directions. Thanks for the advice though. It just makes me sad that he doesn't really have any good friends who are there to back him up through anything. We have some time before the wedding, so hopefully he'll rekindle an old friendship or spark a new one. If not, there's always his brother-in-law(who is rude and inappropriate in social situations...but it's someone!).
maysie18
Posted:
Member since
Re: Bestman Vent-Again!
I'm sorry you have to deal with this! Can FH talk to BM alone? Not saying you can't help but maybe this is some kinda 'guy thing' & if they're alone maybe he'll open up more? Maybe BM is even jealous of you guys - you're living 1 of the happiest times of your lives & altho he's got a role in that - still may be having a pity party or something. I say this cuz if he really came outta the blue w/hating you both, makes me think something else must be going on that he's not sharing?
But as mentioned, maybe his father could be BM? Or a cousin? Good luck!
