Big blow up btw FH and his parents about RD

My rehearsal is 45 min to an hour away from where we all live. FH has alot of ppl coming in from OOS - as I have my whole BP basically from OOS.

My Bachelorette parties are thurs and fri ngiht.

Rehersal is saturday nite. We thought RD would be SAT night.

Well...FMIL wants it Fri night bc she doesnt know what to do with her OOT family...I think they are coming in fri night and wanted a cocktail party for them all saturday...

But we wanted it sat night...and now they are alll fighting and FH actually broke down and was like thats it..I cant do it... (whichi is funny bc thats one instance....Ive had about 30 of them) So as it stands now she is going to start looking for a Sat night....

She FMIL says that no one communicates. about the wedding.....MY mom booked my shower back in august for april 5th. FMIL mom doesnt come back from barbados until april 16th. Shes bent about that. meanwhile, after they did talk, my mom is still buying organizing, planning, and paying for it allherself. FMIL only said dont be offended if alot of ppl from my family dont come.
Then i was unaware that I was supposed to notify her of my plans for my BPs...whhich i wasnt supposed to know about....or if MOH was supposed to call her... I thought she would have called and asked about that?? I never got that memo!

So now I feel bad. But if rehearsal was FRI night - then i wouold do a RD Fri night.

Thoughts girls? Now i feel bad for FH's family that is staying at his house sat night and they are going to be there with nothing to do....according to FH they are not invited to RD.

The llama is on its way to FHs house now

We are in a similar position. FH's family and half of the bridal party is from out of state. Our wedding is Sunday afternoon and our rehearsal dinner (no rehearsal) is going to be Sat early evening at the OOT hotel. (FILs are renting out one of their banquet rooms)

They are then hosting a small 'reception' with some appetizers or desserts for the bridal party AND rest of the OOT guests that night which will occur after the rehearsal dinner, so the OOTers will have something to do. I'm assuming it will mainly be FH's family who will stay and mingle, but our OOT friends can drop by (since they will be at the hotel anyway) if they want. It seems to be the best of both worlds. We are including a list of local restaurants for the rest of the OOTers in our OOT guide.

I know some people invite their OOT guests to the rehearsal dinner but we do have a lot of OOT guests and I personally prefer to keep it to just the bridal party (which is including grandparents). However, if FILs wanted to invite the OOTers too, I probably wouldnt put up a fight.

ughhhhhhhhh does she think this is her wedding? Im sorry but from the last few things u have said abut her id be pissed too!! you should do whatever you want!! why does she need to have an ALL DAY PARTY for the oot guests???? THEY ARE GOING TO YOUR WEDDINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MCFLY!!!!

so sorry u r dealing with this!!

Did your FMIL book her vacation before or after your Mom booked the shower date?

Is it possible to just have 1 Bachelorette Party, instead of 2 (and have it on Thursday)?

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Posted by megzzie

This is a tough situation. It *****, but maybe you could just have one BP on Thursday night, and then compromise and have
the RD on Friday night.

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its not that...I want the rehearsal and the dinner together on one night...Fri night is a sleepover and a surprise my sister has had booked for a while now....RD isnt booked yet!!!!!

Last time i checked with church they either had booked a fri rehersal or didnt want a fri rehersal....I dont want to do one thing one night and one thing another night....esp since church is an hour away....I wanted to relax either fri or sat night, and so did FH!

I just feel like our wants arent being considered..

is it an option to do what we are doing? (see above)

rehearsal/dinner on sat night and then some sort of small reception thing after for the rest of the ooters?

Sorry this is happening Linds It really would make sense to have the dinner after rehersal. I hope you guys can find a resolution soon

i think the rehearsal dinner should be the same night as the rehearsal, it just makes sense that way, if she wants to have a cocktail party or something for her OOT guests she can do that as well.

i don't know...

usually i'm all like 'hey, at least they are hosting it yadda yadda' but this time i'm kinda like at your FMIL b/c i would think most people would assume they both be the same day (rehearsal/dinner)

I know.....had I known that she has a million people staying in the 3 Br house thats the size of a thimble sat into sun, I would have asked the church about a Rehersal on Fri night. But something tells me its booked or he doesnt do it im not sure which...

Now im not sure if i should call her, all iu know now is it has been changed to sat night, but not without yellung and a fight

and now I feel bad for the sat night people....i dont htink she can pay for all of them....so i think thats what she was thinking....but ofcourse no one communicates this to me....how can they go to a dinner and rehearsal and leave ppl out?

I dont know what to do....FH doesnt kn ow how to tell me things either...

that blows. sounds like she is being demanding just because she lost control of the reins.

fact is, no matter what someone is going to be steamed.

do what you gotta do and wear a hard hat to protect yourself from the fall out!

make sure the llama gets a hat too!

I'm a little confused
so your RD is only going to be for the wedding party?
And your looking to do a separate dinner/cocktail hour for the OOTers?

we are doing one event, RD the nite before for wedding party AND oot.