Big fight

Fh and I had a huge fight last night. I don't want to go into all the details, but I hate when we fight. We are both under alot of stress and deal with it differently. I get uppity when I am under stress, and I kind of picked a fight with him because I couldn't get an sort of definite answer from him about anything. He kind of shuts down when he is under stress and zones out in front of the TV.

His dad is in the hospital again and it was bad timing for a fight. We really didn't resolve anything, I just kind of apologized for it being a bad time to bring it up.

But I still feel the same way I did last night about everything and I hate the fact nothing got resolved and it may be a few weeks before it is a 'good time' to talk about this.

And I am really having a hard time thinking about anything else.

maybe its a good idea to try to get away. go to the movies or something. try to relax. if that doesnt work, write it down. at least you can get your thoughts in an easy-to-read and understand order....so when it is time (if ever) to discuss, you can present it logically and thoughtfully...

i know when im really mad it helps when i try to write stuff down and rationalize things. often that process takes so long in itself that the problem is solved before i get the words on paper.

but try to use the paper as your outlet until you can speak to FH

good luck! hth

aww I'm sorry let things calm down and then you can have a nice talk to him when you guys are in a better mood good luck!

I am sorry you are so upset like this.
Just give it some time and try not to keep replaying everything in your head...it will all work out.

I hope you feel better

i know how that is, wait till things settle down a bit then talk it over once all the emotion has come down

Thanks ladies. I just needed to vent.

i hate telling family about these things because they bring these things up later on after the matter has been settled. It's like 'I worked it out with him, now YOU get over it'.

Always the same stupid stuff - money, chores, etc.

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Posted by little j

maybe its a good idea to try to get away. go to the movies or something. try to relax. if that doesnt work, write it down. at least you can get your thoughts in an easy-to-read and understand order....so when it is time (if ever) to discuss, you can present it logically and thoughtfully...

i know when im really mad it helps when i try to write stuff down and rationalize things. often that process takes so long in itself that the problem is solved before i get the words on paper.

but try to use the paper as your outlet until you can speak to FH

good luck! hth

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I couldn't agree more! Things will work themselves out I hope you feel better

don't worry, it will all work out, it always does.

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Posted by TheLadyJ

Thanks ladies. I just needed to vent.

i hate telling family about these things because they bring these things up later on after the matter has been settled. It's like 'I worked it out with him, now YOU get over it'.

Always the same stupid stuff - money, chores, etc.

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ita..I NEVER tell my fam when me and fh fight bc I don't want them to get involved or dislike him...i am sure you will be able to work things out once some time passes

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Posted by stinenandy2010

don't worry, it will all work out, it always does.

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yes, it always does. I know it will. But it's such a downer.

Fighting *****... I have noticed that Colleen and I have argued about stuff lately that we never would... I think its just all the stress everyone is under...

Also... the best place to vent and get sympathy is on here because everyone is stressed and understanding about it... Everyone else is in the same boat with wedding planning, and wedding saving, and worrying about jobs... Its a lot but we'll all get through it I hope....

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Posted by little j

maybe its a good idea to try to get away. go to the movies or something. try to relax. if that doesnt work, write it down. at least you can get your thoughts in an easy-to-read and understand order....so when it is time (if ever) to discuss, you can present it logically and thoughtfully...

i know when im really mad it helps when i try to write stuff down and rationalize things. often that process takes so long in itself that the problem is solved before i get the words on paper.

but try to use the paper as your outlet until you can speak to FH

good luck! hth

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Awesome advice...please feel free to remind me to do this.

Little J...you're the best!

aww im sorry hun... you should tell him its really on ur mind and you want to talk about it.. usually when u talk it over u feel better!!! and i hope his dad gets well