Black Tie Optional.....

Miblove Posted: Jul 23, 2007 02:31 PM

Black Tie Optional.....

I was going to put this on my invite...

I dont want ne one showing up 'sorta' dressed up

I do not necessarily want all guys in tuxes (FH isnt wearing one) but again, I want ppl to know it's a formal dresssssy occassion

What do you think?

MrsD71208 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 02:32 PM

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Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

Mizzdimple Posted: Jul 23, 2007 02:35 PM

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Posted by MrsDtoBe

Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

I agree..Formal should be OK.

jsta76 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 02:35 PM

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I have to figure out what to write as well.

I think all the men in FH's family have their own tuxes. They do a lot of black tie events, weddings, bar/bat mitvahs ect. I did NOT want our wedding to be black tie. Only problem is I don't want anyone feeling uncomfortable and i don't want to require everyone to wear a tux especially since its a sunday day weddings.

mirlynn324 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 02:40 PM

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Honestly, I think it depends on your guest list. I just recently went to a black tie optional wedding where the majority of guests were all middle class people who never went to a black tie wedding before and the buzz at the cocktail hour was 'who does this bride think she is?' I'm not saying that is right, I'm just saying you should consider that.

bella1028 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 02:40 PM

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Posted by MrsDtoBe

Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

I agree...I feel like if you write black tie optional people will feel that black tie is what should be worn...but formal says it best...JMO

jsta76 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 02:53 PM

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Posted by bella1028

Posted by MrsDtoBe

Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

I agree...I feel like if you write black tie optional people will feel that black tie is what should be worn...but formal says it best...JMO

So would you say formal attire optional???

bemyyoko Posted: Jul 23, 2007 03:14 PM

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Posted by jsta76

Posted by bella1028

Posted by MrsDtoBe

Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

I agree...I feel like if you write black tie optional people will feel that black tie is what should be worn...but formal says it best...JMO

So would you say formal attire optional???

NO. I would just say Formal Attire.
if you say formal attire optional it sounds like you dont have to dress up at all, but you can if you want.

dream426 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 03:15 PM

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Posted by Mizzdimple

Posted by MrsDtoBe

Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

I agree..Formal should be OK.

I also agree. They should know what to wear if you write that.

jsta76 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 03:17 PM

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Posted by bemyyoko

Posted by jsta76

Posted by bella1028

Posted by MrsDtoBe

Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

I agree...I feel like if you write black tie optional people will feel that black tie is what should be worn...but formal says it best...JMO

So would you say formal attire optional???

NO. I would just say Formal Attire.
if you say formal attire optional it sounds like you dont have to dress up at all, but you can if you want.

I don't know if I'd say formal attire tho, that sounds like black tie to me

That might be a little too confusing.....I guess everyone is different.

EH i'll probably just leave it out and whatever people show up in they show up in.

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Jul 23, 2007 03:18 PM

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I'd go with Black Tie Optional...

That's pretty universal...

kBr Posted: Jul 23, 2007 03:18 PM

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Posted by bemyyoko

Posted by jsta76

Posted by bella1028

Posted by MrsDtoBe

Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

I agree...I feel like if you write black tie optional people will feel that black tie is what should be worn...but formal says it best...JMO

So would you say formal attire optional???

NO. I would just say Formal Attire.
if you say formal attire optional it sounds like you dont have to dress up at all, but you can if you want.

yup, what she said..

bella1028 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 03:19 PM

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Posted by jsta76

Posted by bella1028

Posted by MrsDtoBe

Write 'formal attire' not 'black tie'...that way, people will get dressed up but won't go out and get a tux.

I agree...I feel like if you write black tie optional people will feel that black tie is what should be worn...but formal says it best...JMO

So would you say formal attire optional???

No I would say formal attire(period)...not optional...it def gets your point across

jeffamanda080808 Posted: Jul 23, 2007 03:21 PM

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We are writing 'Formal Reception Immediately Following'. I want people dressed up (not in tuxes, but something suitable) and I think that some of FH friends and family will show up not dressed up at all. SO at least this way I can polietly let them know that although it isn't a black tie affair it is a formal affair.