Black & White Wedding

I am doing a black & white wedding. Not formal black tie, just black & white,,

Id like for both moms to be dressed in black. Not frumpy , but ithink with the pics & all it would look nice, if the immed family, My parents & his , are in black. ( the dads will be tuxes anyways)

My mom is cool with the idea, but my FMIL is like BLACK, its a wedding not a funeral,, I tried to tell her how elegant it looks & all, & she just keeps pushing the subject off by saying, Oh we have plenty of time, as if to say I may change my mind,,

So am I being outta line asking her to wear black, She can bead her self to death for all I care, long as its black, I even told her predominatly black,,

BTW ( this keeps it on the safe side as she could very well show up in a red dress with a slit up to there) So thats why I suggested black,,

I like the idea, but here is another thought. Why not have the BP wear Black dresses and that way your Mom, FMIL of whoever can wear another color? or maybe even a cream color?

I personally love black, that is what my girls are wearing. But, since my Mom and FMIL are not in the BP, I would like for them not to wear the same color as my BP and stand out.

If you girls are not wearing black, then I say go for it. I love Black so I am a little one sided

i like the idea... i've seen it once and it was very elegant. my mom bought a black gown for my sister's wedding... it looks phenominal on her and it's not a typical MOB dress either. it's so fitting for an evening wedding and very classy.

i think it'll work out well for you!

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Posted by BrideChrissy

If you a doing a black & white wedding then it goes. Personally, I don't want my mom or his in black. I told them I want them in a color. I feel that alot of people wear black dresses and I want them to stand out that day. I can understand her point (sorry) but again, that is your theme and she should respect what you are asking for.

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I agree.. I am a big fan of black too..but at my wedding I want my mothers to be in happy colors.. Even to my E-Party i opted not to wear black and wear a happy color..

If u really want the black and white theme then push for it but.. if she is an Italian mother, it might be hard to sway her. Good Luck hunny!!!

See My BM's are in black, ,, I have no problem with the moms in a color , but I know what that will end up like with my fmil, so im tryign to be diplomatic with her, . She is 60 & is very slim, she dont dress like a 60 year old woman, dresses like she is in her 20's , so I can imagine what she might show up in if I dont say , no id like for both moms to be in black,,

My mom found a real pretty dress, beads & all , less that nasty mob jacket they try & make the moms go for,, LOL

I dont know , just figured if I told her what color, there wouldn be any surprises,,

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Posted by tonimike

See My BM's are in black, ,, I have no problem with the moms in a color , but I know what that will end up like with my fmil, so im tryign to be diplomatic with her, . She is 60 & is very slim, she dont dress like a 60 year old woman, dresses like she is in her 20's , so I can imagine what she might show up in if I donate say , no ID like for both moms to be in black,,

My mom found a real pretty dress, beads & all , less that nasty mob jacket they try & make the moms go for,, LOL

I donate know , just figured if I told her what color, there wouldn be any surprises,,

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What about Silver, that is safe for her. Or screw it Toni, tell her you want her to wear black and that is it. I know her type as described above and I don't blame you for making the decision for her.

I LOOOOOOOVE Black!!! My colors are black and silver! FMIL is wearing a Bill Lev. black and silver dress (separates) and it looks AMAZING!!!
It is really elegant and the bride really stands out on all the pics!! Good luck with her! Hope she gives in....
XOXOXO
Kitty

There are soo many gorgeous Black dresses out there even with some colorful beads on them! I am sure she can find something!! I sincerely hope she is considerate and does what you wish for!! Can't anything ever run smoothly for us!???

tell her johnny cash wore black all the time... people used to say 'what's with the black? looks like you are going to a funeral' and he would say 'maybe i am'

i still say i love it!!

I hear what your's saying Toni, loud and clear. Regardless of the color she may still get a very sexy dress. Is this something you and FH have spoken about? Maybe he can tell his mom to tone it down that day.

My mom is in her 50's and in fabulous shape therefore she takes it upon herself to dress like a 25 year old. For my sisters wedding, she got a dress from a catalogue that specializes in proms and sweet 16!!! I do have to admitt she toned it down since then and her dress for my wedding is a nice cream color and even has a jacket.

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Posted by tonimike

See My BM's are in black, ,, I have no problem with the moms in a color , but I know what that will end up like with my fmil, so im tryign to be diplomatic with her, . She is 60 & is very slim, she dont dress like a 60 year old woman, dresses like she is in her 20's , so I can imagine what she might show up in if I dont say , no id like for both moms to be in black,,

My mom found a real pretty dress, beads & all , less that nasty mob jacket they try & make the moms go for,, LOL

I dont know , just figured if I told her what color, there wouldn be any surprises,,

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what if she wears a slinky black dress slit up to wherever! color can't help that!

I think black for the bms sounds nice, but i agree with maybe letting the in-laws where whatever color.

I told mike, You better talk to your mom,

Our whole BM party is in black, & so are our fathers..

She is looking to 'stand out' & its not happening,,

My sister in law had a blk & white wedding, It looked so rich looking it was so pretty..

She is like , black, oh , i dont know , i dont wanna be in something up to my neck,, I treid to explain to her , I was like when was the last timeu went shopping for a elegant dress, they are not up to the neck just cause they are black,,

Like i said she just goes with the ' oh we have plenty of time''

yea plenty of time for me to remember u are in black,, LOL

Im not being bridezilla but there are just so many black drsess that are stunning , with beads pearls, whateva that she really should have a hard time,,

& Honestly if she goes with the slinky up the leg thing , id rather the mog in black then red no ??? Think about that one,,

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Posted by clarity

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Posted by tonimike

See My BM's are in black, ,, I have no problem with the moms in a color , but I know what that will end up like with my fmil, so im tryign to be diplomatic with her, . She is 60 & is very slim, she dont dress like a 60 year old woman, dresses like she is in her 20's , so I can imagine what she might show up in if I dont say , no id like for both moms to be in black,,

My mom found a real pretty dress, beads & all , less that nasty mob jacket they try & make the moms go for,, LOL

I dont know , just figured if I told her what color, there wouldn be any surprises,,

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what if she wears a slinky black dress slit up to wherever! color can't help that!

I think black for the bms sounds nice, but i agree with maybe letting the in-laws where whatever color.

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Honestly if she goes with the slinky up the leg thing , id rather the mog in black then red no ??? Think about that one,,

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Posted by tonimike

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Posted by clarity

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Posted by tonimike

See My BM's are in black, ,, I have no problem with the moms in a color , but I know what that will end up like with my fmil, so im tryign to be diplomatic with her, . She is 60 & is very slim, she dont dress like a 60 year old woman, dresses like she is in her 20's , so I can imagine what she might show up in if I dont say , no id like for both moms to be in black,,

My mom found a real pretty dress, beads & all , less that nasty mob jacket they try & make the moms go for,, LOL

I dont know , just figured if I told her what color, there wouldn be any surprises,,

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what if she wears a slinky black dress slit up to wherever! color can't help that!

I think black for the bms sounds nice, but i agree with maybe letting the in-laws where whatever color.

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Honestly if she goes with the slinky up the leg thing , id rather the mog in black then red no ??? Think about that one,,

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If you are really worried about that, I think cream is the safest. It's one of those colors that always look polished and tough to get in a sexy dress. black can look pretty sexy, but you're right about red.

Thanxs for the input girls,,

Im gonna sik mike on her , if that dont work, ill let ya all know her address,, LOL