BM ADVICE (opps i posted first on 08 in error)

Kristina2009 Posted: Mar 30, 2008 10:31 PM

BM ADVICE (opps i posted first on 08 in error)

michesq Posted: Mar 30, 2008 10:35 PM

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tough one... I have two BMs that may very well be pregnant by time of my wedding but you know what- everyone's else's life goes on and it has too so do not strsss too much about it

p.s funny on '08 board first as one of BM is an '08 LIW bride lol

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Mar 30, 2008 10:50 PM

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This is a tough call but I would ignore her until the issue would actually arise, if and when she ends up pregnant then you can figure out what to do as far as getting her a bigger dress etc. As far as picking the same color as you, that was tacky of her but girls can be catty when it comes to weddings...sorry you have to deal with this

Kristina2009 Posted: Mar 30, 2008 10:51 PM

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Thankfully not an LIW girl -lol

Cacarina Posted: Mar 30, 2008 10:58 PM

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just because she is going to try to get pregnant on her honeymoon does not mean she is going to succeed right away. sometimes it takes a few months. don't let it get to you right now...see what happens!!!

Kaprabbit Posted: Mar 30, 2008 11:37 PM

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Again, that is tough. I mean, if she didn't let you know you would have found out eventually when you saw that bump. When I asked one of my ladies, she told me flat out.. Are you sure.. I may be preggers. Good luck with your situation though, i'm sure everything will work out fine no matter what you choose. :)

IrishBrideASmiling Posted: Mar 30, 2008 11:54 PM

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Posted by Cacarina

just because she is going to try to get pregnant on her honeymoon does not mean she is going to succeed right away. sometimes it takes a few months. don't let it get to you right now...see what happens!!!

I agree. Honestly if I were planning on getting pregnant and I was already commited to being in a friends BP, I would probably just step down JMO

Kaprabbit Posted: Mar 30, 2008 11:56 PM

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Posted by IrishBrideASmiling

Posted by Cacarina

just because she is going to try to get pregnant on her honeymoon does not mean she is going to succeed right away. sometimes it takes a few months. don't let it get to you right now...see what happens!!!

I agree. Honestly if I were planning on getting pregnant and I was already commited to being in a friends BP, I would probably just step down JMO

I agree with that also, and if that were to happen, it'd at least give you the option to be OK with it.

JnA823 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 01:14 AM

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I think the fact that she mentioned it to you ahead of time was considerate. I would see how it goes if she does conceive right away or not and then see how far along the pregnancy will be and what role she can play.

curlyq4458 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 08:23 AM

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Agreed, this is tough.
Take it step by step...first see when she becomes pregnant because sometimes it's not that easy for everyone to get preggers on the first try...so wait until she annouces her pregnancy.

Don't stress, I know it's tough because she is your friend, but be the better person and don't let it bother you.

Kristina2009 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 10:37 AM

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And I have totally no issue with her stepping down. I think it will be harder if she is 6 months or more pregnant and in a BP. But I think that is likely the way she would take. I already have plenty of girls so it would not be a big deal at all!