BM Issue

Please don't quote me....will probably pull most of this post later today.

One of my BM's lives in Florida. My shower was a few weeks ago. She never even RSVP'd. Never called to see how it went. Never asked my sis if there was anything she could do to help. I sent her a link with pics, never even said, 'Wow u looked great, sorry I couldn't be there.' She was in NY this past weekend, never called. Nothing!
I am more hurt than angry. We've talked about this kind of stuff before (like how she never calls me when she's up here for a weekend). She always apologizes but then repeats the same stuff a few months later.

I was going to send her an email that said....

Subject: At least I know my wedding weekend....

Email text: ....you'll actually call me and see me when u r in NY.

Is that too horrible? Even if it is, should I care?
I am so annoyed!

Any thoughts?

When it comes to issues like this, I think calling is better than e-mail. When things are in writing, they can misconstrued or come back to haunt you later.

Call her and tell her how you feel. Plus, tell her now if you don't want her in the bridal party anymore because of her flaky behavior.

Wow - I would be REALLY hurt also! I am not so sure you should send the text message but I DO think you need to have a talk with her. Have you spoken to other members of the BP? Did they tell you that they had a really hard time working w/ her in planning your shower since she didn't contribute anything, etc.? Maybe you need to tell her that she isn't putting in any effort at all and if she doesn't want to be a part of your wedding, all she has to do is say so. I'm so sorry you're going thru this!!!