BM ISSUES HELPPP!!

First I want to say HIIII! I haven't really been on posting been VERRRRY busy SOO HII!


Now for the question. I am having BM issues.
She has been for Best friend since I was 14. Lately since asking her she has been really weird. Not answering texts or writing back to me on FB or getting back to my calls. Then last week was my sons bday and she said she was coming. I paid 16.99 per child for this bday and she didn't show up. 30min into the party I asked if she was coming still and she responds her job told her that morn she had to stay late for a mandatory training(which Ithink is bull) and that she forgot to text me earlier and she is sooooo sorry. but after that nothing at all. I always ask her to come and do things with my other bms like next week we i am going to try on dresses and she doesn't get back to me. A few months ago when we were going to look at BM dresses she didn't answer me about going and when I told her if she couldn't afford to be in financially I would totally understand i just would rather know now instead of later and she said she has the money and is going to buy the dress in sept and whatever I pick is fine. She doesn't answer ANYTHING isn't involved in anything and its pissing me off. I am only a girl over the guys in my wedding party and I asked her over another friend who I became really close with over the last 4years. Now I am regretting it. I invited her to my younger sons bday if she doesn't respond or come or answer back my emails I am telling her I wont want her in it. Am I wrong for that? Also I want to ask my other friend to be in it. Is it too late or stupid to ask her?

Thanx for you help!

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Posted by Ang9483

First I want to say HIIII! I haven't really been on posting been VERRRRY busy SOO HII!


Now for the question. I am having BM issues.
She has been for Best friend since I was 14. Lately since asking her she has been really weird. Not answering texts or writing back to me on FB or getting back to my calls. Then last week was my sons bday and she said she was coming. I paid 16.99 per child for this bday and she didn't show up. 30min into the party I asked if she was coming still and she responds her job told her that morn she had to stay late for a mandatory training(which Ithink is bull) and that she forgot to text me earlier and she is sooooo sorry. but after that nothing at all. I always ask her to come and do things with my other bms like next week we i am going to try on dresses and she doesn't get back to me. A few months ago when we were going to look at BM dresses she didn't answer me about going and when I told her if she couldn't afford to be in financially I would totally understand i just would rather know now instead of later and she said she has the money and is going to buy the dress in sept and whatever I pick is fine. She doesn't answer ANYTHING isn't involved in anything and its pissing me off. I am only a girl over the guys in my wedding party and I asked her over another friend who I became really close with over the last 4years. Now I am regretting it. I invited her to my younger sons bday if she doesn't respond or come or answer back my emails I am telling her I wont want her in it. Am I wrong for that? Also I want to ask my other friend to be in it. Is it too late or stupid to ask her?

Thanx for you help!

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Believe me I feel you!!!!!!!!!!! My problem child is getting beter though, now a new one is emerging!!!! One of my bms told me that one of my bms is not responding to any of the emails my MOH is sending. Maybe give her a chance to redeem herself if not then good by!!!!!!! I would hold off on asking someone else until u are certain about the decision.

I know she does have stuff going on but shes talked about it and I am constantly asking her about it. But shes gone to other weddings and another kids bday party so its just me she is basically screwing over and ignoring. I hope she comes through I really hate to have this happen it sucks

i'm sorry your going through this. its frustrating when you don't know she is doing the things she is.
first, i don't think its too late at sll to ask your other friend, who you became close to in the last 4 years, to be your BM. i think she would be honored that you asked her to be a part of your special day. your not getting married until next november, so she has plenty of time to save money, if she chooses to accept the honor.
as to your current shady BM, iwould give her the one more chance and see what she does at your younger sons b-day party. if she pulls the same sh!t then i would kindly let her know that you have decided that it would be best for everyone involved if she were not int he b-party anymore.

what's up with these bridesmaid's lately. I am having issues with mine as well. I say u should talk to her and voice ur opinion and see what she says. If nothing changes, I say tell her u can't rely on her and replace her...


GL. I hope all works out