So I am the MOH in my sister's upcoming July wedding. Last night at the dress fitting, we got into a discussion about us bridesmaids wearing the shawls over our strapless dresses while in the church.
The woman at the dress place insisted it was 'Mandatory as a show of respect in a church'. However, we tried them on and they look really cheesy. We're not religious, and the church doesn't seem uptight (St Rose in Massapequa). They match and came with the dress, so its not a question of money.
Ladies, do your bridesmaids NEED to wear the shawl? Did you encounter this situation and what did you do? A shawl in July, yes or no?
THANKS IN ADVANCE!!!
mrsjpc3
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no, they do not need to wear a shawl. Unless your church specifically mentions this, which i dont believe too many do.
kimmaymb20
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I never read anywhere in the St.Rose material about covering bare arms but I would call the church just to double check.
geegee827
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I've been to weddings at St. Rose and the BMs wore strapless dresses without shawls.
Whether or not it's mandatory depends on the church.
asg450
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It is really up to the church the wedding is being held in. Some churches do not like even if the bride wears a strapless dress, while others do not have issues with it. Our church does not have a problem with showing some shoulder for a wedding.
MrsL2010
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st. rose isn't as strict as some other churches. the priest who is performing our ceremony used to be at st. rose and told me if my church was too strict, we could always use st. rose
JAAMS
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It is not mandatory to wear a shawl in church, unless they ask you to or something
FutureMrsG
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The shawl is not mandatory for the church.
MrsDR2010
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It depends on the church. They would have told the bride that already if it were mandatory.
stinenandy2010
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I never heard of that, I think you should be fine
nikki471499
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In my church they dont need to wear them but they do suggest that they do if the dress is strapless. My girls are wearing them for church only.
FutureMrsSoltan
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Unless your church specifically tells you .... I have never heard of having to wear a shawl in the church tho.
lori7570
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Honestly even if it was mandatory I wouldn't do it...
JamDancer
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it depends on the church... if it were my sneaky self I wouldn't even ask, bc if you show up the day of and they have a problem with it, what are they gonna do about it?
Hoda2010
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My sister got married in August and we had strapeless dresses and did NOT wear shawls and the church didn't say anythng!
victorious1979
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Thank you girls, you rock.
I emailed my sister a link to this thread, as 'proof' that we don't have to wear those cheesy shawls. =)
lucamon
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I think the woman is trying to make another sale.
victorious1979
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Thats what I thought too- but then I realized the shawls CAME WITH the dresses (Jasmine).
I think she was just really old fashioned- but she's giving advice to brides and I am sure most of them believe her. Thank god for LIW!
FutureMrsM
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I am religious and I do respect the church, my church does not require this and the girls will not be wearing shawls and neither will I, their dress has straps, my dress does not.
