BM stress - sorry its long

I have not been a demanding bride at all, in fact I have asking nothing from my BM let alone my MOH.

My MOH is having some family issues and emailed me yesterday saying that she feels bad that she hasn't had time to do her MOH duties and would like me to consider someone else as my MOH. She seems to be jealous of my relationship with one of my other BM. I don't know why she feels this way since I haven't asked any of my BM to do anything for me yet. I emailed my MOH and explained that I still want her as my MOH but its her choice if she no longer wants to.

I called her and left her a VM b/c we should discuss this instead of email. She never emails me back or calls me. Then today I get an email saying that since the other BM has been doing so much for me (no clue what she's talking about) that I should consider her.

I'm so frustrated b/c I can't talk to her live about what is going on and she is doing this 2 months before the wedding. I have no idea what is going on in her head....she tells me that she isn't ignoring me but just needs time to herself. If that is the case, why email me and tell me this if you are not ready to deal or discuss the issue.

UGH UGH...I'm so disappointed and lost b/c I can't resolve this since she's not responsive. I still can't believe your friends will do this to you. It makes you realize who your friends are and how selfish they are.

Sorry for the long post...just needed to vent.

I'm sorry to hear that, unfortunately you really see peoples true colors when planning a wedding. I've had some drama of my own as well, one of my BM told me yesterday that she doesn't think she can afford 2 be in the wedding, (but she's already purchased the dress), which is non-returnable... And my wedding is 3 months away.

I understand your stressed, don't worry it will work out.

i am sooo soo sorry you are going thru this!
i've had my fair share with MOH drama and issues!
I swear that has been my moto the whole wedding process:
You really find out who your friends are, and who will always be there for you, and who wont!!!

cheer up, because im sure the rest of your BM's will be there for you and make up for your MOH.

Im so sorry about this. It really stinks.

I think that no matter what you say to her she is not going to be responsive.

Try to get her on the phone and talk to her.

But seems really clear that she does not want to go forward as the MOH for some reason. I say let her off the hook and move on.

Its not worth one more moment of your energy. Make the decision and move on. TYou ahve gone to her but you cant make her listen.

im so sorry you are going throught this..

i think u def need to talk to her and tell her that u want her to be(that is if u do)and tell her u would not hav asked her if u did not want her to be

if she really says after that u should pick someone else,then do it..ask the other girl..u want a moh who WANTS to be it

You shouldn't have to practically beg someone to be your MOH. She has some nerve.

Replace her. I know she must be close to you but she isn't stepping up to the plate. It doesn't mean she has to be kicked off the team...just on the injured list- kwim? Sorry for the sports analogy but I think fits here.

Thanks ladies for all the support. I think I will ask my other BM to be MOH. I'm just so annoyed that she started this convo and then can't be bothered to return my calls or emails. That really pisses me off.

I always knew she was a selfish but this tops it b/c I thought she would think about someone other than herself. I want her to tell me she doesn't want to be MOH not trying to gain pity from me telling me that she is stressed out and doesn't have time.

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Posted by Deeglasser

don't give up on her, it seems like there is something more going on in this situation than she is willing to let on...

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ITA

I would still try and reach out to her and even if she doesnt respond just let her know that she is only being replaced at her OWN wishes!!!!!

She seems like she has smthin real serious goin on and she doesnt want to make her issues your berden

Things will get better